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At least we haven't dated THIS guy
| Fri, 08-04-2006 - 5:37pm |
This has got to be, by far, the worst first-date-gone-wrong story I have ever heard. I mean, I've dated some losers, but this guy takes the cake.
It takes awhile to listen to the voice mails on the link, but it's worth it:
http://prdifferently.typepad.com/my_weblog/2006/07/how_not_to_act_.html

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Yeah - did he actually think he was "buying" a second date with her by paying for dinner? Totally ridiculous.
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For those of you who didn't read the link, the short version is that the guy meets a girl on J-Date (online dating site for Jewish singles). He takes her to dinner. She offers to pay for her half, and he says no, he'll take care of it.
Well, she doesn't return his calls for two weeks, and they don't go out again. He then proceeds to e-mail her, call her and generally harass her to get her to pay the $50 for her half of dinner, saying "you ate the food, you drank the wine, you didn't call for 2.5 weeks - do the right thing." He calls her office, calls the restaurant, stops payment on his credit card and even threatens to sue.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
And that's when I would've said, "And you have a chance to take my offer. But you blew it! So deal with it."
I think this guy was seriously counting on getting lucky, and when he didn't he turned his ugly head. Men can be quite cruel once they've been rejected! But this guy is the model of two-faced.
Edited 8/7/2006 3:57 pm ET by filiasan
What a winner.
>>The guy I'm dating refused to let me pay on our second date because he said he knew what that meant- that he wouldn't get a third. Who knows what the "right" thing to do anymore is....except be honest, and that guy obviously wasn't! <<
I know. I find my self second guessing everything I do or say with a new guy, because it never seems to be the "right thing." I agree - honesty is the best policy, and the guy's reaction is out of my control.
So, did you have date three with that guy?
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Yep. We've been dating about three weeks now.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
HAHA. I just had to forward this one to some co-workers. My goodness, what a jerk. Guys pay on the first date...and even when you offer they don't let you. Now second date, I think you should plan on paying for yourself but that's just me.
Glad I didn't go out with this one....creeeeeeepy!
I'm going through this kind of thing right now! I'm actually mailing money to some guy I went out with in MARCH who misunderstood me when I told him I was no longer interested in him!
It's a much longer story than that, but the basics are: we met in March, I liked him. He paid for my beer and my part of the appetizer we split on our first date. I'd offered money, he said no. We went out a second time. During that date, I got creepy vibes, and I offered money for my portion of the bill (appetizer sized pizza and salad, diet soda), but he refused. I even said, "It's always so awkward to know what's the right thing to do with paying for dates and stuff. I hate feeling like I owe someone something JUST because he paid." and held out money, and he said, "Don't worry about it." I didn't want to do the third date, but since I have a bad habit of giving up on men before they've gotten a chance to calm down a little (and because the first date was pretty good), I agreed to go. We met at the movies, where I'd intended to buy the tickets. But he got there first and got them. So I bought him his candy and soda. Afterwards, he suggested a coffee, so we went to a diner. I took the check to pay it, but he took it out of my hand. I certainly wasn't going to scrabble for it! He might have taken it as a flirting gesture!
To refrain from rambling further: I told him after date #3 that he was freaking me out, that I was getting bad vibes, and that I also was very busy. He apparently only heard the last part of that and offered to wait around til I was less busy. I said, "if you want." It is definitely my mistake here, in that I thought he'd forget about me. He didn't. Four months later, he comes calling. We talk one night on the phone and I'm just not interested. Being passive as I am (I know, not good), I politely emailed to him that I wasn't interested. He didn't get it. Kept emailing me. I ignored him. He kept emailing.
It finally blew up Monday. He asked why I was ignoring him, I told him it's b/c I wasn't interested; he said I never said that. I forwarded him the email that DID say it. He just didn't understand why I'd go out with him three times if I wasn't interested? He attacked my character, accusing me of using him for free meals, saying it'd be NICE if I'd offered money at least on the date. I said, "I did!" And then I wrote, "if the money means that much to you, send me an itemized list and I'll reimburse you. What is it, about $40?" He took me up on it!!! (He's the cheapest man I've ever met--asked me on Date #2 if I already had an ING account, and was upset when I said I did, cuz he wanted the $10 referral for signing me up!) To shut him up, and because I think he's mentally unstable, I'm actually sending the money. I did, however, remind him that I offered money every time we went out.
But I'm only sending him $23 (the ones are to add insult, I hope)...taking off $7 for the candy *I* paid for at the movies, and subtracting $10 b/c I WAS interested in him on date #1, and by his logic, it's then a worthwhile expense.
What a blockhead.
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