Lesson from Sleeping Beauty..

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Registered: 09-04-2007
Lesson from Sleeping Beauty..
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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 11:53pm

Lesson 10 from SLEEPING BEAUTY: Don't give up on love, even if it seems like you've been single for 100 years. The length of time it takes is no reflection on your worth or appeal.

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This makes sense, if I must pull teeth and admit it, but it's so hard to believe. How could you be single for 100 years if you're worthwhile and not be snatched up by a worthy man? Screw it, any man? Doesn't being single for 100 years mean that men find something about you (or just you) inherently unworthy and unattractive? If you were so flipping amazing, how is 100 years of single aloneness and loneliness even possible? I find it hard to believe that a worthy woman would be so ignored- it makes no sense to me. It lends itself to two options: either you truly are unworthy (I find this hard to believe) and 100 years of being single is men ignoring you because they truly do find you wanting, or you are in fact worthy and you are single for 100 years because men are blind and dumb (which I also find hard to believe).

I do think I'm worthy, so in my case, the logical conclusion is that men are simply blind and dumb. But I also hate that explanation because I do think that there are many great guys out there. So I really don't understand. It is so confusing to me, as to why I'm invisible to men. I can't think of any other reason for this.. I really don't think there's anything majorly wrong with me. Sure, everyone has flaws and I'm not perfect, but I don't think there's anything about me that is a major turn-off. I just get so confused because I don't understand why I get passed over so much! And confusion sucks because I can't do anything to fix it if I don't know what is wrong. It hurts so bad..

I just get so irritated when I get overlooked! Do you ever feel like you have good qualities but that you may as well be a ghost? Why are normal women so insignificant to the male species? Logically, it makes absolutely no sense that average, normal, secure women are so invisible... I try to be the best person I can be but I still struggle with not letting men make me feel like I actually am invisible. It's just so confusing and hurtful! I don't understand why this happens! Any ideas? Is there any explanation for this at all?

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Mon, 09-24-2007 - 7:38am

I know exactly how you feel.