let him know i saw his myspace?

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let him know i saw his myspace?
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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 5:35am

So today I was on the bus and looked out the window - this gorgeous guy on the sidewalk was smiling at me. I turned my head and he was stillll smiling at me!
Later on I was walking down the street and heard this " hey, how's it going?" I looked up and it was him! He said " do you have a minute for me, now that you're off the bus?"
It turns out he was campaigning for starving children but our conversation quickly turned into " what are you up to? do you live around here? etc"
He got my number for his project (how could I saw no?) and I went on my way.
When I got home I looked him up on myspace (he was wearing a name tag) out of curiosity and found him.
He is single, my age and as it turns out my best match on the zodiac...haha.
Creepy to msg him?
I can't help but think that there was a reason I looked out the window right when he was looking at me and found my ay back to him an hour later (I was on a route I had never been on before on my way to a interview that ended up being a waste of time...other than the fact that I met him)
Wait to see if he calls first?

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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 8:40am
Yeah I would wait for him to call I wouldn't contact him through his myspace.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 10:48am
Well, I would wait for him to call, but did you get his card or something? Or his name written down at all? If not and you just memorized it from the name tag, no I wouldn't contact him through myspace.
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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 10:57am

I agree with the other two.

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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 4:08pm

yeah one of my best friends just emailed and said " you're such a geek! that's harsh stalker style!!"

so,yeah.

funny how people keep telling me to get over my ex yet when there is someone I am slightly interested in, i'm a stalker for wanting to pursue him.

guess i'll sit around and wait for the man to make the move - the tactic of many women.

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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 7:04pm
Nobody is suggesting to sit around and wait by the phone and pine away, but if some guy found I gave my phone number to then tracked me down where I worked, or starting looking me up on the web etc and tracked me down there, I would be creeped out that he went to such lengths, and yeah maybe he would just "happen" to find me coincidentally on their by just typing in my name, but I would be totally turned off. Especially if I gave him my number or I got his number and said I'd call. I would immediately get a "cuckoo" vibe from them or "needy" "desperate" or "oh no" vibe off of that. JMHO.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 7:20pm

Ok maybe this is my age showing but I don't understand how emailing him on myspace could be considered "stalkerish"! Isn't the whole point of having a myspace profile so that total strangers can read all about you and email you???? If it's ok for strangers to do that, why not someone you've met in person?

If he wanted it to be "private" then he'd make it private, right?

Sheri

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Fri, 07-13-2007 - 7:27pm

I think that for me it's because their exchange was business related, not personal.

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Sat, 07-14-2007 - 8:06am

Hey!
That's a cute story...hope you guys hit it off!

Yes, I'd definitely wait for him to contact me, if I were you. You met him in real life, so contacting him via MySpace doesn't really make sense. Also, it could creep him out a bit that you looked him up on there. The fact that he has a MS page isn't all that surprising, since many people do.
It's not about you being a stalker or about you having to sit around and wait for a guy to contact you. You had a life before you met him; live it until (and after) he contacts you. Yes, we've all beem anxious to hear from a new guy we've met. Doesn't make us desperate or anything..it's natural. You can still live your life, though, while hoping that he'll call. No need to take matters into your own hands and send him a MS message!

He has your number, so he should be the one contacting you. You don't want to come off desperate by seeming to go to such lengths as finding his MySpace page. You met him in real life, so you should get to know him in real life. I'm sure you'll hear from him soon! Keep us posted!

Mali




Edited 7/14/2007 8:19 am ET by mali2579
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Sat, 07-14-2007 - 8:50am
If his myspace is not set to private then he is okay with just anyone contacting him. You don't have to send him a message asking him out or telling him to call you. A simple message that says something like, "Hey I met you today and then came across your myspace, what a coincident! Just thought I would drop a note to say Hi." Then the ball is back in his court, he will then have access to your myspace and he will learn a little about you without having to ask. You know he has your number and now that he knows your are interested he just may put it to use. What's the worse that could happen, he doesn't message or doesn't call no big deal. Don't send anymore but there really isn't any harm in sending that first one. It doesn't make you seem desperate or anything. Some of my closest friends started out like this. Sometimes you have to put yourself out there.
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Sat, 07-14-2007 - 10:58am

Myspace CAN be conducive to stalking...but that's why now you can opt to have your profile private, so only the people on your "friends" list can see your page.

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