Letting Go.....................
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Letting Go.....................
| Tue, 08-22-2006 - 4:35pm |
Is the most difficult thing to do in life I think. Especially in the dating world when you are looking for the one and your biological clock is ticking (well at least for me it is). I'm trying my best to practice letting go in all aspects and trusting that everything will happen as it should. It's very difficult to do but I think it's the best thing to do so I don't drive myself crazy obsessing over dating situations or what I don't have in my life that I want. I'm letting go of the men that are not right for me in my life and now I'm trying to let go of expectations in dating. When a guy I like doesn't call me after a first date (which has happened often) and when the guys that I am not attracted to are adamant about calling me (which also has happened often)I'm going to do my best to let go of the frustrations and just say "That's the way dating goes most of the time". Letting go without obsessing is a very big challenge for me but I'm figuring since trying so hard and obsessing has got me no where wouldn't I rather be relaxed and let go and have no expectations.

Ok, so I was celebate "in the city", for a total of 3 years(2 of them in a row). Yes you can live just fine without a man, especially creepy, mean men!
I did the date and dump routine alot before I met my husband.
I never called them back, why should I, I wasn't into them. I'm proud of my instincts, and values. I didn't marry til I was(and am now) 35!
I don't want kids, so my priority was to have fun, I still have fun, but share my life with the Love of my Life,...My Husband!
Take care,..
Katie;)
biochic2004, I've been trying to live by letting go, but not necessarily giving up. i always worry or overanalyze things in general, but most of the time, it got me nowhere. i've always been a worry wart - worrying about what went wrong with the last relationship, should i find a new job, if i see my ex-bf at work, what do i say, etc, etc.
funny thing is people tell me i have it made - financially stable, single, education paid for...but I think worry more about how much "better" my life could be if i had a job i really enjoyed, had a boyfriend, etc. my time will come soon and so will yours!!! so anyway, like you, i've been trying to let go of things in the mean time...
Letting go is oh so hard ... I've spent the past five years trying to do the same with a dead end "relationship". I feel like I am a magnet for losers of all breeds and have finally put my foot down and decided I deserve so much better. We all do. I think we tend to "look" for "anyone", especially when we're lonely and that only makes matters worse. I agree with some of the others ... it's time to step back and let things happen as they should. No more settling for less. Hold your chin up high and take one day at a time. (Now, if I would just eat my own words!)
Best of luck to you.
I'm at this same exact phase now. I'm very lonely and think of hooking up with people that have been in my face a little while but didn't care to notice because I had all doors closed and only one open for the man I was with for a very long time who was my first everything. I feel like just hooking up with someone no strings attached and I see the signs that I might be dating for a very long while. It sucks when the guys I have no interest in are the ones who want to get my number, while the ones I would talk to seem harder to catch. I'm thinking life is too short, just go after them. I'm just concerned about how emotionally vulnerable I am with no control over my feelings that I might think I'm doing something out of my own free will and probably regret it. But what I'm doing is avoiding putting myself in those situations until I heal the right way, and that is what I find hard. I sense a desperation that isn't good, which is what I'm trying to cope with. I have even considered counseling because my feelings are all out of whack. I know that giving myself time and refraining from everything until I'm ready to mingle is the right thing to do, but the temptation is there because I've been missing out on so much
Edited 8/23/2006 12:58 am ET by esorogidni