"Life in the fastlane"

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Registered: 12-07-2006
"Life in the fastlane"
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Mon, 03-19-2007 - 11:50am

First off, I know the title of this thread is strange, but it's the best way I can sum up what I'm getting at.

Anyway, it's always seemed to me that women, especially younger ones (late teens/early twenties) are attracted to guys who lead fast-paced, exciting lifestyles. It's a lifestyle I'd like to lead. The problem is, I only have the foggiest idea of what that lifestyle looks like and I have no idea how to achieve it. I'm usually busy (my days are packed with either work or school) but whenever I have free time, I am more than willing to sacrifice a few days/nights of my work and school schedule.

So I guess what I'm trying to ask is, how can I develop my own "life in the fastlane"? Not only that, but how do I let other people who normally wouldn't know me know that I lead such a lifestyle so as to draw them to me?

Try to remember back when you were all 18 to 21 year old girls again. If you heard about how some guy spent his weekend, what would make you say, "wow, he sounds really cool. I want to hang out with that guy"?

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Registered: 11-01-2005
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 12:21pm

Move to a big city.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 12:44pm

It sounds to me like you're trying to become something you're not just so you can meet women.

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 12:45pm

Had he looked like Don Henley back when I was 18. *sigh* and boy did I always want to be considered terminally pretty....

Sorry...Life in the Fastlane joke.

Smile,

Deirdre

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Registered: 03-16-2007
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 12:50pm

Sorry I'm no help here - I'm a home body, who LOOKS for ways to slow life down! I feel like it's going TOO fast as is!

When I think of "life in the fast lane" I see someone who is always going and looking for something to fill there time. As if they can't be still and really spend time with themself - maybe it's scary, maybe they don't find themself fun whatever!?!? All I know is life in the fast lane isn't for me! :)

Good luck!

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:12pm

Minimum 5 series BMW.

Wardrobe from Versus, if not Versace.

Black Card.

Look like this: http://www.modeling-success.com/images/C32.jpg

And have weekend homes in Aspen, The Hamptons and the Riviera.




Edited 3/19/2007 1:14 pm ET by sisfox


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Registered: 12-07-2006
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:21pm

>>>Move to a big city.<<<

I wish I could, but that's not an option for me at the moment. I'm only 20 and in college, and I don't have a lot of money to live on my own, much less in the city.

But I've always aspired to life in the city. Whenever my friend who lives in New York comes to visit during summer or breaks, he always has more stories to tell from 1 single week in the city than I will have in over 3 months without seeing him.

I live in a pretty suburban area and there's not much to do or see around here.

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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:23pm

Ah, sisfox, you gave me some more ideas:


~join the Mob


~get a private jet or helicopter...or both


~become a High Roller in Las Vegas


Sorry...I know I'm just being silly now.

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Registered: 12-07-2006
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:35pm

>>>It sounds to me like you're trying to become something you're not just so you can meet women.<<<

A lot of you guys have said that I'm trying to "be someone I'm not," but it's not like I'm doing any better just being myself right now.

>>>I'm not saying you shouldn't take up new activities or interests for yourself and your own enjoyment, but if you do something or try to change yourself or your lifestyle for the sole intention of trying to meet women, you are going to be sorely disappointed.<<<

Why is that? Yes, meeting girls is the primary reason I want to do this, but at the same time, a big chunk of it is for myself. I feel like like I've gotten trapped in a pretty dull, mundane routine. My entire week is class, work, hangout at friend's dorm for a couple of hours. Next week, class, work, hangout at friend's dorm for a couple of hours.

I've always worried that the reason girls don't like me is because they think I'm a dull and boring guy, and I realized, I lead a pretty dull and boring lifestyle. I feel like things could get better if I do something to shake things up and make other people see that.

>>>When I was 18-21, I hate to say this, but what made me want to get to know a guy better was how he looked. For me, it was more about looks than personality. I was young and stupid. I wanted a nice-looking guy to snuggle with and go to the beach/movies/dinner with. I'm sorry - I know some of us were giving you a hard time for being "shallow," but back then, I WAS shallow.

Now, that's not to say I was never attracted to a guy who was not classically handsome - I had my share of crushes on guys who my friends thought were ugly. But the reason I was attracted to these guys was because we had become friendly and I just felt that "pang." It was never anything the guy did - it just happened.<<<

Well like I said, I've done everything I could to make myself look as good as I possibly can. I dress well, I go to the gym and I have a pretty good body, but like I said, I'm short and my face isn't really the most handsome. So if I can't attract girls with looks, what other option do I have than to attract girls with my actions?

>>>As for "life in the fast lane"....when you use that expression, it makes me think of guys who do some of the following (but my disclaimer here is they are not necessarily guarantees that women will be into you, nor do I condone all of the behavior I am about list as examples):

~ Guys who ride motorcycles (cool), sometimes recklessly (not cool)

~ Guys who are into racing cars (cool), again, sometimes recklessly (not cool)

~ Guys who drink a lot, then like to ride motorcycles and race cars, recklessly (this is illegal and NOT cool)

~ Guys who do drugs (not cool)

~Guys who drive fast, listening to loud music, smoking cigarrettes

~ Guys who like to go off-roading, mudding, hunting, ATV-riding (as long as they're not acting like idiots and drinking/doing drugs, this is cool)

~ Guys who do extreme sports - motocross racing, snowboarding, skateboarding - look up extreme sports for more examples

Again, I'm not saying any of these things make or break my interest in a guy, but that's what I picture when I think of "life in the fast lane."

Now, me, I'm interested in guys who like country and classic rock music who like to dance, but I'm different. ;)<<<

My parents absolutely will not let me have a motorcycle and still let me live in this house. My car's kind of a P-O-S so it's really unfit for racing. I could try to get into extreme sports, but like I said, money, time and location is a factor.

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:44pm

<<>>

Beats my usual sacasm. LOL


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Registered: 11-21-2005
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:53pm

I feel like like I've gotten trapped in a pretty dull, mundane routine. My entire week is class, work, hangout at friend's dorm for a couple of hours. Next week, class, work, hangout at friend's dorm for a couple of hours.


Then by all means, try to find some new and different activities, but don't focus on trying to look like a badass, because, no offense, you'll just look ridiculous.

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