"Life in the fastlane"
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| Mon, 03-19-2007 - 11:50am |
First off, I know the title of this thread is strange, but it's the best way I can sum up what I'm getting at.
Anyway, it's always seemed to me that women, especially younger ones (late teens/early twenties) are attracted to guys who lead fast-paced, exciting lifestyles. It's a lifestyle I'd like to lead. The problem is, I only have the foggiest idea of what that lifestyle looks like and I have no idea how to achieve it. I'm usually busy (my days are packed with either work or school) but whenever I have free time, I am more than willing to sacrifice a few days/nights of my work and school schedule.
So I guess what I'm trying to ask is, how can I develop my own "life in the fastlane"? Not only that, but how do I let other people who normally wouldn't know me know that I lead such a lifestyle so as to draw them to me?
Try to remember back when you were all 18 to 21 year old girls again. If you heard about how some guy spent his weekend, what would make you say, "wow, he sounds really cool. I want to hang out with that guy"?

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I personally hate it when people do this. Who's to decide who's being genuine and authentic and who's just pretending? What's the difference between a guy who leads that lifestyle naturally and a guy who leads it intentionally? It just seems really unfair and unreasonable to me.
There is a VERY obvious difference between someone who is really into something and someone who is trying way too hard to look like they're into it to impress people. Sorry, but someone like Pee Wee Herman, Napoleon Dynamite, Screech from Saved By The Bell, or Steve Urkel trying to be all badass biker dude would look just plain ridiculous. There are some people who just don't have it in them. You want to go ahead and try anyway, go right ahead. No one's gonna stop you. But just don't expect that women will suddenly come running just because you've turned yourself in to a BAMF.
Why is it that the Jock who beat up and humiliated some poor kid got the girl, the Punk who smoked pot and drank got the girl (AFTER HE STRAIGHT UP TOLD HER HE HAD TONS OF OTHER GIRLFRIENDS) but the Nerd who didn't hurt anyone left alone?
First of all, it was just a movie - whoever gets the girl is all up to the person writing the script. Second of all, the jock and the Johnny Bender guy were a heck of a lot better looking than the nerdy guy. Lastly, why did they get the girl? Because they each had a set of balls, something the nerdy guy didn't have. No girl wants to be with a pansy.
Wouldn't that be the ultimate in being a poser?And there's always the Fonz from Happy Days. LOL
Uh, yeah, it would be. It was a joke.
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Well, I don't know where you live, but when my son took West Coast Swing lessons, the girls were all over him. He was 16 at the time. And now, at 18, he has no trouble finding girls to go out with him. I can't tell you how many proms he was invited to.
As for techno/trance - well, since there's no definitive form like there is for the Standards and Latin, no, you probably wouldn't see anyone teach it. You just DO it.
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I really think your misogyny shines through when you approach women, which is why you aren't having any luck.
I still think you should just get a pro. You obviously don't care about the prospective woman you may hook up with. You don't want a relationship. You just want sex. That would be the guaranteed route.
Okay, I am just going to be blunt and save you from any further agony. You being short, not having a cute face, no money, driving a POS car, not to mention lacking a single ounce of self-confidence, you are not going to get a 18-21 girl who is attractive and wild to even give you a second glance no matter what you do and how much you try to morph into this person you are not. It sounds harsh, but that’s the reality. Sorry, nobody said life is fair. You seem to be stuck with this notion that life has to be fair, but it is not. Some people are born attractive, rich and smart, some people aren’t. With the way things are for you right now, you are not going to get a girl. Deal with it, it’s life.
If I were you, I would focus on school right now so that I can get a kick ass job when I graduate, move to a big city and make tons of money. That’s the only way to get the fast lane life and the hot girls you so desperately want. The hot girls won’t turn money down. Whether they will actually grow to love and care about you, that’s a different story, but since that’s not a concern you have right now, we don’t need to go there.
Another thing you can do (I already know I am wasting my breath), how about joining the fraternity? You get to be friends with all the cool guys on campus and be at parties where drunk girls will put out? Also, are you interested in any sports? When I was in college, I had a thing for guys who were in the fraternity and on the college sports team. But they still had to be cute and decent height. So you will still be out of luck with me when I was in college, sorry.
>>>Then by all means, try to find some new and different activities, but don't focus on trying to look like a badass, because, no offense, you'll just look ridiculous. My brother just bought a motorcycle this year, and he and all his friends laugh at people who are purposely trying to be "bad" and "live in the fast lane." They call them "posers."<<<
>>>I personally hate it when people do this. Who's to decide who's being genuine and authentic and who's just pretending? What's the difference between a guy who leads that lifestyle naturally and a guy who leads it intentionally? It just seems really unfair and unreasonable to me.<<<
Then why do you do it? You're a wanna-be poser. Give it up and get a grip.
No that's a different guy. Can't remember his siggy but I haven't seen him around in a while.
This guy is 20 - too young to even get into a bar legally.
I.E.- heights-rockclimbing/skydiving
snakes-work with them
girls-make an effort to flirt with a cute girl everyday (it doesn't matter what they think, more how you feel having done it.)
guys are attractive when they are confident with themselves, and fearlessness doesn't hurt either. make sure you are smart about it though stupidity is a major turn off!
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