A little advice please,

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Registered: 08-29-2003
A little advice please,
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 7:57pm
I'm currently a junior in college, pretty attractive and outgoing and have a hard time meeting guys. I know this sounds ridiculous since there are a ton of guys on campus. I do have many guy friends, but they all see me as a "little sister" or just "one of the guys." My female friends say they don't see a particular reason why this is happening. They try to set me up but the guys I'm set up with are never interested in being anything but friends. When I do meet a guy I really like, they are never single. It is extremely frustrating, when all my friends have dates to football games and other social events, and I have to tag along by myself. Any advice or encouragement would be greatly appreciated as I am ready to throw in the towel with the so-called game of dating.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 08-29-2003 - 8:26pm
First, welcome to the board! We're glad to see you here.

The first question that comes to my mind is Do you flirt? Do you smile, make eye contact, touch their arm, etc.? I think that some women don't seem "dateable" because they don't send off a vibe that they want to be dated. Another thought is maybe asking one or two of those guys if you could do something differently. There may be some insight that they can give you as well!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 08-30-2003 - 12:28pm
okay, first of all, you can always ask a male friend to go with you to a football game. (i think games are better enjoyed watched with a friend than with a date anyway)

second of all... maybe you need to branch out a bit. meeting someone through a friend isn't necessarily the best way to spark romance, especially since there's so much potential for interference. it's possible that a little distance from you usual group might enliven your opportunities a great deal...