A little down today.

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A little down today.
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Wed, 10-15-2003 - 1:08pm
So last night I was driving home from work and I saw my ex-fiance in a car accident. (He works across the street from me) I stopped to make sure that he was okay and that he could make it home. He assured me that he was fine and the other driver was okay. I gave him a hug and got in my car and drove home. We drive the same way to our homes. They had exchanged information and he was right behind me on the way home. I have had the no contact rule because it really does hurt that we aren't together any longer. So seeing him in danger like that really scared me. I made it a point not to call him all night and at about 8:30 he called to say thanks for stopping and checking to make sure he was okay. I appreciated that but kept the conversation short. Now I have him in my head again and it's going to take a few days to get him out. I hate when I run into him. Its so hard not to. I just wish the pain would go away and I would be able to maintain the friendship I know we will eventually have. We get along great but because we aren't together it still hurts too much. Ho hum. Hope the day gets better...

~Chloekins
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Wed, 10-15-2003 - 1:26pm
ah, accidentally bumping into an ex is tough...

good on you to stick to your no contact rule. it should get easier over time...

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Wed, 10-15-2003 - 3:35pm
I know exactly how you feel. I'm fine about my XH til I go somewhere or I encounter someone that has to do w/him--then I feel like I "lose it" all over again.

This morning I had to take in my cat to the vet "we" used to share (it was "his" vet before we married). I had to tell the front desk the cat was under my "old" name--and for some reason, it hurt. Hopefully the cat profited from the visit--she's a really good vet--but beyond that, I prefer not to frequent that part of my city; the memories are still too fresh and I'm still too "raw." Even though I know I made the absolute Right Decision in leaving him, and although my life has absolutely improved since I moved out--I only know it in my head.

But the cat seems to be doing better--hope that made the trip worthwhile eventually...

Ash

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Wed, 10-15-2003 - 4:17pm
I hope that you feel better soon.
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 12:21pm

I'm sorry you were feeling sad.

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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 12:49pm
Actually I am doing a lot better today. He called me last night too but I had a semi-date with a guy that I have known for a while. We went to watch the Cubs lose to the Marlins. So sad. I wish our lives weren't so entangled with each other so I coul heal and move on... Thanks though. I really appreciate it!

~Chloe
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 1:10pm
Glad you're feeling better! :-)