Little risks

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Little risks
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Mon, 12-19-2011 - 11:21pm
Awhile back there was this guy who would come to karaoke at the same place I went. I always thought he was cute, but only talked to him a couple of times. He looked a little like my ex, and at first that was hard to get beyond. I thought he'd be mean like him too, I guess.

So the old place closed (I'm still sad about that!) and he'd stopped coming anyway so I kinda forgot about him. The new place (same owner as the old bar) opened and it's pretty much a snooty restaurant- not at all what some people thought. I'd seen the guy make comments on the new restaurant's Facebook page about applying as a bouncer on the weekends, but that was it. This past weekend, he left a comment about how the new place just wasn't right for our mid-sized town. It was too stuffy, and the old place was much better. He wrote it very intelligently and was nice, but I completely agreed with him. So I sent him a message telling him about the place where the old DJs are working now. It's basically taken on the role of the bar that shut down. It's newer and in an odd spot, though, so not many people know about it.

That seems like a small risk, but for me to email a random guy who probably doesn't even remember me is a big deal. No response yet, though. Every time I see that I have a message, I get a little nervous, though. I don't know why! It's not like I even know the guy. But he does have an awesome voice, and that makes me melt!
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Registered: 02-26-2011
In reply to: shywon
Tue, 12-20-2011 - 12:06am

Shy, not only does he remember you, he's thought of you a dozen times since he saw you last and kicked himself for not being more assertive that night. Problem was, he'd had a bad day at work and his head just wasn't in the game.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Tue, 12-20-2011 - 8:05am
I doubt he's pining over me given he had several months of karaoke nights to approach me but didn't. Could have been that I was always with my guy friend (it very obviously makes a difference) but I'm not going to assume. I'd be nice if he remembers me, though.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: shywon
Tue, 12-20-2011 - 10:08am

Well let's hope that prompts him to go to the place you were talking about to sing--then when he does, you'll definitely have to go up to him and start a conversation about how you lured him to that place.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
In reply to: shywon
Tue, 12-20-2011 - 7:29pm

Yeah, Shy, like she says. Take a risk. Meanwhile, it's a lot more interesting to believe he's pining for you.

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In reply to: shywon
Thu, 12-22-2011 - 12:21pm

YEA Shy!!!

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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 12-22-2011 - 2:26pm
That's awesome...I can be shy but I mostly don't make the first gesture, when I'm interested in someone, for fear of being shot down. It's really no way to live. Kudos to you! I know it was a small feat, but again, I think it's great!
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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 12-22-2011 - 3:49pm
Yeah...haven't heard anything back yet, which is fine. Six months from now when he finally gets the message I'll have completely forgotten about it!