Lonely

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Registered: 12-03-2003
Lonely
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Sun, 11-11-2007 - 6:27pm
I just want a little emotional support. Getting back into dating, I never realize how hard it was gonna be. Usually, everybody who meet me like me. I am quite easy to get along. The issue is, it's either men don't even notice me or when they do, after a while, I get the "I am not looking for a serious relationship" speech. Lately, I am so lonely especially today. I feel like I am totally being rejected by men. I want to get married and have kids some day but first, I want to be dating. I don't even know where to go to pick up guys. Things get even tougher when some of my exes are happily married with kids and have moved on. I feel so alone and feel like my time is passed although I am just 31 years old. Of course, I've been through the whole emotion of why they married the other woman and not me. I am just so tired and lonely. Hopefully this is just a phase.
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Registered: 10-14-2001
In reply to: piscopa
Sun, 11-11-2007 - 8:33pm

I know.

Soliel
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Registered: 04-13-2003
In reply to: piscopa
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 12:05am

I'm sorry you are feeling lonely, but being by yourself should not make you feel lonely.

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Registered: 10-14-2001
In reply to: piscopa
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 1:13pm

I'll just speak for myself here.


I am very much able to spend time alone and I cherish it.

Soliel
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Registered: 11-12-2007
In reply to: piscopa
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 1:50pm
Honey I feel you. I'm on a man-diet myself. I'm sick of all the reading between the lines, beating around the bush like a pinata at a birthday party stuff. I'm too busy to sift through the turds trying to play grown-up. I think men can be wonderful people, but I'm on lock down until I meet someone who makes me stand at attention. No more so so, kinda sorta, "if ya look at him in this light" kind of men. I'm at a point in my life where I know what I want and I don't need or want a wishy washy man.
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Registered: 09-07-2007
In reply to: piscopa
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 8:49pm
I can speak from experience, it is a phase. You will get through it. I let my ex-fiancee go over a year ago. It was one of the best things that has ever happened to me! I was so wrapped up in his life and his goals and "our life"together, that I lost who I was. I forgot about my dreams and goals. The first 3 months after I let him go where the hardest. I got some counseling. It helped tremedously. I also got rid of anything that reminded me of him. Pictures,jewlery, everything. By the 4th month I missed him less and less everyday. I began to live for me. I began to write out a list of all the things I put on hold for him and marriage. Now for the first time, I truly enjoy being single. I enjoy having my time to myself and doing the things that bring me joy. I do get lonely at times. We all do, but I rarely ever think about my ex. I also wish him the best with whoever he is with. I am just glad he isn't with me anymore. It took me 4 months after the breakup, to see just how wrong he was for me. You will move on and the bitterness you feel will go away also. Once you forgive and let go, you will began to feel less lonely. And you will start attracting the men you desire to attract.

Chelle-

Amour-Propre

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Registered: 05-10-2005
In reply to: piscopa
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 9:03pm

I am sorry you are feeling so lonely.

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Registered: 12-03-2003
In reply to: piscopa
Mon, 11-12-2007 - 9:41pm
Thank you all so much for your input and encouragement. I really appreciate and need it. I am a very independent person and so being by myself usually is the way I like things but lately, I feel like I want to be in a relationship again. At times, I can walk into a room full of men and non will talk to me. It's almost like I don't exist. It's not that I expect men to jump when they see me but let's all face it, it's great to be at least acknowledge. Then there's that look I get when some guys decide to talk to me. When they find out I am single, they put on this facial expression that seems like they are thinking "what's wrong with her". It's wierd. Needless to say, I am taking all your advise seriously and I really am grateful to you all.