Lonely and Hopeless

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Registered: 02-28-2005
Lonely and Hopeless
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 9:40am
I don't even know what I want to say. I guess I'm just kinda depressed right now and very lonely. I broke up with my most recent boyfriend about 1 1/2 yrs ago... and I really haven't been in a relationship sincde - and haven't even dated much. At this point, I feel pretty hopeless and own on myself. I have a great personality and a great sense of humor and many friends - but guys just don't seem to like me. I feel very unattractive. I can't figure this out. I'm at the point where it seems that everybody else is either married or in a serious relationship and am convinced that this will never happen for me. I'm so scared of being alone and that nobody will love me. I've liked the same guy for quite awhile now - probably too long. I've managed to become friends with him, but it seems like I'm totally down the "friends track" and nothing more... Then I see my friends "crushing" on a guy and something happens within weeks... Why can't I do this?? What is it about me? I can see that I have a very bad attitude about this but really can't see it any other way. I feel very "unlikeable"...

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Registered: 05-30-2007
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 5:24pm

>>My ex and I broke up 2 months into law school - a great deal of our arguments were because i was stressed out and couldn't deal with him being so carefree when i was so overwhelmed (it was selfish of me, but it was also hard not to be at the time)...
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I disagree period. It was not selfish of you at all to peruse your dreams. It is a part of who you are, it clearly was not important to him that you be yourself, and clearly he did not love you enough for it to be important to support you when you needed it. He is no different those woman that dear john there BF's in Iraq because "they" can't take the stress and loneliness. Please. (-: That was no loss, and sure was not you fault, and you were absolutely not selfish.

Chasing a dream with dedication is not all fun and games, it is that day to day grind and lots of sacrifice. Never look at all your hard work with anything but pride. Don't confuse a little stress and pressure with some flaw in you. It is the exact opposite. It is your strength in character that has gotten you this far, your just a little tired at the moment. (-: You have to have a real backbone to survive law school. (((-:

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Registered: 07-16-2007
Mon, 07-16-2007 - 4:23pm
well as a single guy i was wondering what kind of men are you intrested in?
you said you go to law school, ans unfortunately a lot of women like you sort of have "high expectations" from men. do you judge men based on their socio economic status, or other more important things?

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