Lonely on the weekends

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2003
Lonely on the weekends
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 11:03am

After several months of not being able to sign on and post on the boards, I've finally made success!  

Ok, now that's over, does anyone ever feel a little depressed on the weekends?  Seems like I'm perfectly fine during the work week because I'm busy and my mind doesn't tend to go idle.  I do look forward to the weekends just so I can sleep in!  But when I have nothing planned, I tend to either clean or do laundry, read, or watch a film.  I just settled into my new place after moving a little over a month ago so I don't know if that has anything to do with it or not.  

I'm just curious if anyone else has felt this way.  


Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 1:36pm

I do if it's been a long stretch of no social life. Right now since it's summer, my life is pretty solitary. My weekends save me from getting really depressed as long as I have something to do. If I don't, I usually end up being really lazy. It gets really old. I hear friends with kids talk about how they'd love to have more time to themselves. What they don't realize is that after a couple of days, it's not all that great. 

So glad you could get logged on again!  I know it's a pain. We're one of the few boards that's still active, and I plan to keep it that way! 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 1:46pm

I used to feel that way.  I've been divorced from 2nd DH 5 yrs and I have kids from my 1st marriage (got that?)  So on the weekend that my son would be at his dad's, usually I'd just go walk around the mall and buy stuff because I didn't know what else to do with myself.  I figured I needed to do things so I could have a social life.  This weekend I didn't do much, except Friday night, which was very unusual.  Most of the time I am busy.  So I think if you are generally bored, you have to look around to find things to do & make some friends.  If you are in a new area, go look around to places you have never been before, go to a museum or something like that.  Occasionally I'll be enjoying the quiet and just rent a movie at home, but if you do it too long it gets old.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 3:01pm

I'm glad I finally got logged in, too!  I couldn't figure out what in the world was going on.  I emailed iVillage support about a month ago.  No response.  Sigh.  At least I'm in now.

It's funny because some of my friends who are married and/or have children, want my life of peace & quiet on the weekends.  And then I wish I had their life, just to keep me occupied and busy.  I do spend time w/friends on the wknds as time permits.  But when I have nothing planned, my mind goes idle & I worry over things I have no control over.  I've seriously thought about that meetup.com website to check out things in my area that may be of interest.  Oh, and I've subjected myself to online dating.....again.  Ugh lol

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 3:05pm

That's kind of like me, I stay busy most of the time especially during the work week.  I still live in the same state just moved to a different side of town because A. - it's more affordable and B. - it's closer to work.  There's an agriculture center close by that has hiking trails.  I cut through there on my way to work in the morning and see people walking them.  I really should do that.  I'd go after work in the evenings but it's stinking hot right now it's unbearable.  But I could probably go over there early on a weekend morning when the temps aren't too bad.

Like I was telling Shy, I've thought about looking into that meetup.com website to check out interests in my area.  

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-14-1999
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 3:29pm

It depends; some weekends, I don't even think about it and other times it can get a little lonely.  I blame myself, though.  I never plan.  There are only so many activities that I can afford or want to do though, so planning things with others always seems like a challenge.  I remember wayyy back when, I had an AOL account and there was a board for activity partners.  I used to meet up with a gal to play tennis.  Have you tried meetup?  

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 3:39pm


I sometimes feel lonely to but like you it's more on the week-ends...

During the week I am busier but look forward to some down time...

I moved recently to although my ds and I have settled in...

We moved to a new city went through some losses but actually feeling so much better.

This week though has been tough...:(...About a month ago we had a death in our family and also my dad has some serious health issues...he was in the hospital and now is in a Retirement Home...

I escaped an "Abusive" relationship but found the No Contact easier for me than him...

Other things going on so I am concentrating on me...

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 3:50pm

Hi there,

I saw your post and wanted to comment. I hope you all don't mind that I am posting on here.  I am married, have 2 children, and guess what?  I get lonely on the weekends too!!!!  For me, having a husband and children has kept me somewhat busy during the weekends, but I still get lonely.

I really don't know if having children made my loneliness go totally away.  Many Friday and Saturday nights, I sit and think everyone is going out and doing something, except me.  Like, I am still in my 20's (I feel ) and I should be out somewhere on a Friday night, not home.  I wonder why I feel like I am in my 20's, when I am about to turn 40?  I don't mean to say I want to leave my kids and go out, I just have not lost the whole idea that to me weekends are sapose to be fun, going out on a Friday night.

Does that make sense?  Just saw this and wanted to share (even though I am not single).

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 4:13pm

Wishful, yes, I get lonely on the weekends. Not every weekend, but weekends when I have no social plans, I tend to get lonely. 

For me, just "staying busy" is not enough to stave off loneliness. I really need meanigful connections with people I feel close to. So just going from one activity to the next doesn't do it for me. 

I find that I generally have to plan my weekends in advance if I want to get together with someone. And of course, people will invite me to do things too. I also think it helps to have single friends. Your married friends are way too busy with children and husbands to take time out of their weekends (in general). And sure, you can go along to the zoo with your friend and her kids, but that gets old. 

Yes, check out meetup.com. There are some pretty wacky groups, but surely there could be one or two you could find interesting and meet some like-minded people. It's a low-pressure way to meet people. I even started my own (although now I'm not the organizer anymore). I've made a couple of friends from that group that I see outside of the group.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 4:23pm

Oh gosh no Heidi, I don't mind you posting here =]  I used to post on your board several years ago when I lost a dear friend of mine to suicide.  

Reading your post is actually refreshing.  For what it's worth, I'm 35, single, and hardly go out on Friday nights because I'm just too tired from the work week.  I went out a couple Fridays ago with friends to see an art exhibit and that was the first time in quite some time I went out on a Friday night!  Some weekends I feel down in the dumps and some weekends I don't.  Normally it's on Sundays that it hits me.  It's really weird.  I'm glad that others are in the same (if not similar) boat.  And talking to you all helps me feel better.  Especially that I can now finally post!  

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 4:26pm

I know what you mean.  Some of the things I want to do here in town requires money.  And it can be limited sometimes depending on what week my pay check falls on & when I have to pay my rent the first of every month.  I've seriously considered the meetup website.  I've glanced through it but never actually dug into it.  I should do that tomorrow when I'm at work if I have down time.  I wonder if anyone else has had luck w/the meetup website.