Lonely on the weekends

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Lonely on the weekends
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Sun, 06-23-2013 - 11:03am

After several months of not being able to sign on and post on the boards, I've finally made success!  

Ok, now that's over, does anyone ever feel a little depressed on the weekends?  Seems like I'm perfectly fine during the work week because I'm busy and my mind doesn't tend to go idle.  I do look forward to the weekends just so I can sleep in!  But when I have nothing planned, I tend to either clean or do laundry, read, or watch a film.  I just settled into my new place after moving a little over a month ago so I don't know if that has anything to do with it or not.  

I'm just curious if anyone else has felt this way.  

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 4:29pm

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  ((gentle hugs))  I'll send some positive vibes your way for your dad, too.  And stick with the no contact.  Speaking of abusive exes, mine had the nerve to come up to me at the grocery store here while back.  I ignored him & pretended I didn't know him lol.  I never frequent that grocery store but I guess karma came back to bight him because he works in the meat department there.

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 4:33pm
I'm definitely going to check out meetup. Surely there is something out there where I can meet other like minded people. Finding other single friends can be hard.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 9:08pm

I happen to like meetup.  I live near a big city so there are numerous meetup groups.  I am in one for single parents and another one that's for singles over 50, among others.  I think it's a great way to meet people without the pressures of say a "singles dance" where you feel unhappy if you didn't meet someone that night.  You should definitely check into it--you should also look at the past & present calendar of a partciular group.  There are some groups that don't seem to plan many activities.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 9:12pm

I think that having children, your life really revolves around what they are doing, mostly and it's not always that fun.  Sometimes you do a think with the kids that's fun for them, like going to a zoo or park, and yes, it's a nice family activity, but maybe not what you'd be choosing to do yourself.  I think that married people need date nights without the kids so that everything doesn't end up being about the kids, paying the bills, cleaning the house & all that boring stuff, and you also need to go out with the girls once in a while.

I'm at the stage now where my youngest is almost 18 and believe me, once he got his license & a car, it was like a new freedom for me.  Before that, it was always what are you doing?  do you need a ride?  what time are you coming home?  My plans were always dependent on what he was doing--now I can actually make my own plans and just tell him I'm going out.

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Sun, 06-23-2013 - 9:48pm

I will definitely do that.  Thank you, musiclover =]

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 06-24-2013 - 11:05pm

 I never have that problem.  I do live in my mind so intellectually I have a lot to do during the day.  I have anime,Korean and Asian dramas so If GOT is not on there is something else.

chaika

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Mon, 06-24-2013 - 11:54pm

I hope you don't mind another married woman posting here. 

I am frequently lonely on the weekends.  My hubby and I work opposite shifts - his includes nights on the weekends. Mine are straight days.  This is not a new situation for us, but now that our kids are grown up I am having trouble filling my weekends.  I have single friends to do things with, but our interests don't always coincide.  I had never heard of meetup groups but am definitely going to check that out.  Thanks for a great idea.

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Tue, 06-25-2013 - 7:48pm
I don't mind at all! It's cool to read posts from others who are not single. It makes me (and others) feel better that it's not just us single people who have a tendency to feel lonely on the weekends. I actually went to the meetup.com website and they do have interesting groups in my area. You may want to check out and see what they have available in your area, too. I found there a large hiking group in my area that meets up at a local park very close to my work on Monday evenings. I may join them. The only thing that holds me back is that it's so stinkin' hot this time of year.
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Registered: 11-04-2012
Tue, 06-25-2013 - 8:22pm

I did manage to take a quick look on meetups in my area, and there is one for hiking and also another for photography.  These are definitely worth looking into to keep myself busy over the summer.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 06-25-2013 - 9:09pm

Yes, not all meetups are just for singles.  The ones that are usually specifically say so, but for example, I was in a movie group and a dinner group that were for anyone.