Lonely on the weekends

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Lonely on the weekends
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Sun, 06-23-2013 - 11:03am

After several months of not being able to sign on and post on the boards, I've finally made success!  

Ok, now that's over, does anyone ever feel a little depressed on the weekends?  Seems like I'm perfectly fine during the work week because I'm busy and my mind doesn't tend to go idle.  I do look forward to the weekends just so I can sleep in!  But when I have nothing planned, I tend to either clean or do laundry, read, or watch a film.  I just settled into my new place after moving a little over a month ago so I don't know if that has anything to do with it or not.  

I'm just curious if anyone else has felt this way.  

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Mon, 06-24-2013 - 11:05pm

 I never have that problem.  I do live in my mind so intellectually I have a lot to do during the day.  I have anime,Korean and Asian dramas so If GOT is not on there is something else.

Goldfish

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 9:48pm

I will definitely do that.  Thank you, musiclover =]

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 9:12pm

I think that having children, your life really revolves around what they are doing, mostly and it's not always that fun.  Sometimes you do a think with the kids that's fun for them, like going to a zoo or park, and yes, it's a nice family activity, but maybe not what you'd be choosing to do yourself.  I think that married people need date nights without the kids so that everything doesn't end up being about the kids, paying the bills, cleaning the house & all that boring stuff, and you also need to go out with the girls once in a while.

I'm at the stage now where my youngest is almost 18 and believe me, once he got his license & a car, it was like a new freedom for me.  Before that, it was always what are you doing?  do you need a ride?  what time are you coming home?  My plans were always dependent on what he was doing--now I can actually make my own plans and just tell him I'm going out.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 9:08pm

I happen to like meetup.  I live near a big city so there are numerous meetup groups.  I am in one for single parents and another one that's for singles over 50, among others.  I think it's a great way to meet people without the pressures of say a "singles dance" where you feel unhappy if you didn't meet someone that night.  You should definitely check into it--you should also look at the past & present calendar of a partciular group.  There are some groups that don't seem to plan many activities.

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 4:33pm
I'm definitely going to check out meetup. Surely there is something out there where I can meet other like minded people. Finding other single friends can be hard.
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Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 4:29pm

I am so sorry to hear about your loss.  ((gentle hugs))  I'll send some positive vibes your way for your dad, too.  And stick with the no contact.  Speaking of abusive exes, mine had the nerve to come up to me at the grocery store here while back.  I ignored him & pretended I didn't know him lol.  I never frequent that grocery store but I guess karma came back to bight him because he works in the meat department there.

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 4:26pm

I know what you mean.  Some of the things I want to do here in town requires money.  And it can be limited sometimes depending on what week my pay check falls on & when I have to pay my rent the first of every month.  I've seriously considered the meetup website.  I've glanced through it but never actually dug into it.  I should do that tomorrow when I'm at work if I have down time.  I wonder if anyone else has had luck w/the meetup website.

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 4:23pm

Oh gosh no Heidi, I don't mind you posting here =]  I used to post on your board several years ago when I lost a dear friend of mine to suicide.  

Reading your post is actually refreshing.  For what it's worth, I'm 35, single, and hardly go out on Friday nights because I'm just too tired from the work week.  I went out a couple Fridays ago with friends to see an art exhibit and that was the first time in quite some time I went out on a Friday night!  Some weekends I feel down in the dumps and some weekends I don't.  Normally it's on Sundays that it hits me.  It's really weird.  I'm glad that others are in the same (if not similar) boat.  And talking to you all helps me feel better.  Especially that I can now finally post!  

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 4:13pm

Wishful, yes, I get lonely on the weekends. Not every weekend, but weekends when I have no social plans, I tend to get lonely. 

For me, just "staying busy" is not enough to stave off loneliness. I really need meanigful connections with people I feel close to. So just going from one activity to the next doesn't do it for me. 

I find that I generally have to plan my weekends in advance if I want to get together with someone. And of course, people will invite me to do things too. I also think it helps to have single friends. Your married friends are way too busy with children and husbands to take time out of their weekends (in general). And sure, you can go along to the zoo with your friend and her kids, but that gets old. 

Yes, check out meetup.com. There are some pretty wacky groups, but surely there could be one or two you could find interesting and meet some like-minded people. It's a low-pressure way to meet people. I even started my own (although now I'm not the organizer anymore). I've made a couple of friends from that group that I see outside of the group.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 3:50pm

Hi there,

I saw your post and wanted to comment. I hope you all don't mind that I am posting on here.  I am married, have 2 children, and guess what?  I get lonely on the weekends too!!!!  For me, having a husband and children has kept me somewhat busy during the weekends, but I still get lonely.

I really don't know if having children made my loneliness go totally away.  Many Friday and Saturday nights, I sit and think everyone is going out and doing something, except me.  Like, I am still in my 20's (I feel ) and I should be out somewhere on a Friday night, not home.  I wonder why I feel like I am in my 20's, when I am about to turn 40?  I don't mean to say I want to leave my kids and go out, I just have not lost the whole idea that to me weekends are sapose to be fun, going out on a Friday night.

Does that make sense?  Just saw this and wanted to share (even though I am not single).