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Looking Up
| Sun, 02-18-2007 - 5:49pm |
I was told that women want to look up to their men. Although I know that confidence is important, I have never heard of such direct, bold statement. What is your opinion of it?

I look up to mine...
'cause I come up to his chin. :)
Seriously, though, he's my hero.
Pooh1972
I think that in ALL *healthy* relationships, people (both men AND women) want to be able to look up to their partners. No one wants to be with someone they don't respect.
(And by respect, I don't mean the amount of money one makes. I mean corresponding values, ideas, intelligence and so forth.)
Like Emdeesea said, I think that's all about respect.
LOL, but I am sure that (some) men can see through it ....
I was asking the question because a woman at the bartending class did look up to me as I am more experienced and skillful. The problem was that I showed my "high quality" negatively, when I lost patience at her inability to listen and follow directions. For example, she grabbed Grey Goose when the order was a Ketel One martinee. So I reminded her that it should be Ketel One, but she took Finlandia. Then when I stopped her and waved my hand to move her toward the correct bottle, she took Grey Goose again. After we went three, four times between the two wrong bottles, I lost all my patience and thought, "Why did you go back to Grey Goose and Finlandia again when I already told you that we want neither one?" Although I tried to control myself, my frustration certainly seeped through. For the rest of the session, to spare myself the pain, I had to look away when we were talking, or ignore her. However, the more annoyed I was, the more she wanted my approval.
I am sure that "high quality" or respect or admiration does not equal meanness. Also, I do not enjoy that kind of interaction. Today she was trying to partner up with me, and I did try to be nice, but the previous experience left a really bad taste.
Well, I want to look up in the literal sense -- to someone taller than me. :) But I take it that's not what you're getting at.
I think it is good to "look up" to the person you're with. To find something in the other person that is admirable and of which you can be proud. However, if that becomes worship or obsession, that's another story.
AJ, enjoying life with C.