Looks vs. personality UPDATE if you want
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| Fri, 07-20-2007 - 2:50am |
Wow! I never expected such controversy and conversation over my two postings. I guess it really is a hot topic though in relationships. Well, I have now spent more time with both guys and guess what! I'm even more confused! But I do agree with all of the women out there who said that attraction can grow and looks aren't really the most important thing for women (even if that is what we're used to).
So I went out twice with guy #2 (the night of our last defensive driving class and then the next day). He was a lot older than I thought (33, and I'm 23). I find him very attractive. We kissed that night that we went out and I am even more attracted. He is fun to hang out with and easy to talk to. However, he seems a little immature for his age in some respects (such as how he talks about work, his boss, and coworkers). He's still much more mature than any guy in his twenties.
I saw guy number one (Mr. Personality) tonight. We cooked dinner together and watched a movie. He was a total gentleman but the chemistry seemed different tonight than it was the first night. He seemed more reserved and shy. I gave him the opportunity (I thought) to give me a kiss at the end of the evening. All throughout the movie I was trying to decide if I wanted him to and I still hadn't decided until he hugged me at the end of the night, but he didn't do it. Maybe he doesn't like me all that much. Just because he's not as cute doesn't mean I can have my pick and just expect him to fall for me. However, maybe he is just shy because he wants to see me again this weekend.
So now guy number one and two both want to see me again. I will see both of them again. This will be the 3rd time for both of them and I don't think that is leading them on because we're not that close yet. I really appreciate everybody's thoughtful responses to my first "discussion."

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Smile,
Deirdre
I was going to ask the same thing...
I was going to ask the same thing.
Oooh, I don't think you realized how many people read both boards...anyway.
I dated a guy a few years ago....I was undecided about how attracted to him I was, but then we kissed after a couple dates (par for the course for me, for some reason) and bam! Sparks were DEFINITELY there. :) A kiss can tell you a lot, I think. And just because he hasn't kissed you doesn't mean he doesn't like you that much...another guy I dated waited a month or so before he ACTUALLY made a move. I was getting ridiculously frustrated by that point, but when we actually did kiss, the tension really did make it better...well, that compounded with a few drinks, but you know. :) Some guys are just shy. Sounds like a cute date though.
So you were having sex with guy #2?
Obviously this is for LovingHockey... I messed up!
Edited 7/20/2007 11:59 am ET by luvmansbestfriend
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