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| Mon, 11-05-2007 - 12:37pm |
I met this guy about 3 1/2 months ago. He seem to be a real nice. The first thing out of his mouth was that he was lonely. I don't know about anyone else, but I certainly would't say I was lonely out of fear of looking needy. Any how I figured since he moved down here and knew no one was why he

I waited almost two months before I slept with him. Very good lover but I wasn't in love with him, I liked him alot.I notice that if I didn't say I love you at the end of a phone conversation, the next time we speak he would not end the conversation with I love you.
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He might have figured this out . . whatever you do or don't think of him, if he really does love you and you don't share those feelings . . .he is going to get hurt, isn't he? Some one not so long ago started saying I love you when she didn't really mean it to me
I'm with you...3.5 months is too soon to love someone IMO and him saying he
Mine said something like that. The trick is, if you don't love someone, don't say you do, period. (-: If they leave, they leave .. it is called sharing information, and allowing them the respect to chose how much risk they can tolerate, (That is a minimum level of respect if you sincerely value there feelings, isn't it?), the truth is not always pleasant. To me, tell me what you do feel . . .and live with the choices I make . .I promise the same in return.
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I'm with you...3.5 months is too soon to love someone
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I have been head over heals twice in my life, and never a day goes by that I don't think at least in passing of these two women, one more than 20 years ago now . .
What you're describing is what I would call strong infatuation (which is different from lust, although lust is usually a component of it).
It takes a good 4-6 months before you even start to see the "real" person behind the best foot forward dating mask we all wear to some degree.
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100% true. What you are describing is a "loving and complete relationship", not "just love". Love is a raw emotion without much mercy or common since sometimes. Love can be a complete disaster. (-: It is not always healthy. I think I might offer that "love" can be very real even in its more negative and destructive forms.