lost my best friend to marriage?

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Registered: 03-28-2003
lost my best friend to marriage?
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Fri, 12-02-2005 - 12:15pm

so one of my close friends (best friends in college) got married in september. i have not heard from her since. she doesn't return my calls and she hasn't returned my emails. She mentioned that she take me out to dinner shortly after she came back from the honeymoon as a thank you to how supportive i was of her but she didn't follow through with it. before she got married, she was a flaky friend to begin with but i thought it would improve over time. what should i do?

she knows that she isn't a good friend, she's told me how bad she's felt. so should i confront her about it? i've never really given it (my thoughts) to her in the past, i've just said it was ok but now i am fed up with it! anyone has experience with this? advice please!

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Registered: 02-15-2005
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 1:49pm

BTDT

Sadly, I too, lost one of my best friends when she got married. Her husband's friends were all married, so she dropped all her single friends and his friends' wives became her new friends.

There's nothing you can do about it - relationships evolve, and some times just fade away.


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Registered: 04-13-2004
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 5:52pm
Confront her about it and then drop her as a friend. This might seem harsh, but I had a friend who was the same way. Although my friend was not married, she did the same thing. If she knows she is not a good friend it is almost her way of telling you she will never be one. She will only disappoint you in the end, Trust me with this!!!!!!! Focus yourself and time on your friends who deserve your time. Otherwise, you are setting yourself up only to be hurt in the long end. You did not loose your friend to her marriage, you lost your friend because she does not know how to be a one. Move on.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 12-02-2005 - 6:53pm

I worry about the same thing with my best friend.