A lot in common, any sparks?
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A lot in common, any sparks?
| Sun, 06-18-2006 - 8:37pm |
Ok, so I have gone on three dates now with a guy. We're in our mid 20's, have mutual friends, and seems like we have a lot in common. Thing is we're both shy. First date we hugged bye, second he hugged me then gave me a kiss on the cheek, third date he just hugged me. Not sure if it's b/c we're both shy or if there's just lack of chemistry. Is it weird that we haven't kissed or been touchy feely? I never make the first moves, and the last few guys I dated we more agressive. He said he'd give me a call sometime. If we go out again how should I progress things, or should I just let it happen naturally? Thanks for youe help!
Jennifer

I'll be honest.. I feel kind of like a loser for it, but my boyfriend and I didn't kiss untill we had been dating for 6 months. Actually it was about two weeks after we had made our relationship "Oficcial" We are both extremely shy. Apparently he had started to go for a kiss much earlier and I hadn't noticed, and I looked down, so he figured that I didn't want to kiss him. lol.. I think about it now, and I'm actually glad that we waited a while. It worked for us. Anyway, I literally asked him "so, do you have something against kissing, or do you just not want to kiss me?" and the answer I got was a stuttered "i do, I do want to kiss you, I'm just really shy, and didn't know if you wanted me to." I guess my point is that I don't think it has that much to do with chemistry, since you say you are both shy, it may just have to do with your comfort zone. My boyfriend has always been very respectful of moving the relationship at my pace, ant not doing anything that I wasn't ready for. This did irritate me at first, because I always had to bring up everything, but that also works for us. but he could also be trying to read you, and see what you are comfortable with.
I also don't make the first moves, and I felt the same way for a while, but when he kept calling me and asking me to out I just kinda stopped worrying about it, and had fun. Sorry, I tend to ramble, but I hope this helps.
Good Luck,
Kira
Thanks so much! That's a lot like my relationship was with my first b/f, but I was 17 at the time and it didn't bother me then. Thanks for telling me your experience!
Jennifer
If you want to kiss him, I say kiss him.