love is funny

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Registered: 09-29-2005
love is funny
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 7:43am
I've been seeing this guy for about a year now. He is thoughtful, generous, attractive, my family and friends love him and he loves me. I just don't think I love him. The problem is we lack a common sense of humor. I feel his jokes are always so predictable and stupid and he doesn't think my jokes are funny at all. Maybe it's petty considering he's got most everything else going for him but the men I have felt really in love with have been people who could make me laugh. So do I stick this out because it's practical in every other way or is it unfair to continue with him if I really don't feel love for him?
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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: lin_dy
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 8:48am
I think that it isn't fair to him to string him along. However, you might find that, once he's gone that sense of humor is not as important as you thought it was. Personally, I am in the same boat. A sense of humor is key - not just because I like to laugh but because I think that it can help a couple through a lot of difficult times. Maybe you should consider taking a break and seeing how you feel. He might not be willing to do that, but it's unfair to continue on for more than a year if you don't have strong feeling sfo rhim.
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Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: lin_dy
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 1:01pm
It's funny how we look for a good sense of humor in a guy, some people try so hard to be funny that they look stupid and in others, their sense of humor is their best trait. I am with you, I love to laugh and if the guy is humorous, even if he's not that goodlooking his great sense of humor makes him look very attractive to me. I am dating a guy who's goodlooking and tries very hard to be funny, but he's not, I just laugh b/c I don't want to make him feel bad but his jokes are terrible! I think we need to think real hard if this is a dealbreaker for us or oversee it and compensate it with their other traits. But a year is a long time for you not to feel strong feelings for him, I will take a break from him for a while.