For love or money? Who would you rath...
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| Sun, 01-28-2007 - 11:33am |
For love or money? Who would you rather be with?
- a man who I love deeply, but doesn't look good "on paper"
- a man who looks good "on paper" yet I don't love deeply- I simply care for him
You will be able to change your vote.

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It's okay if sisfox has her preferences and you have yours.
Thanks Stacey!
Ya know - I did have the passionate super-romatic relationship in my early 20s. He was a writer and worked as a waiter until he finished his Great American Novel. I got over the poverty ridden life in a hurry. Ran into him a few years ago. He's still the poverty stricken wanna-be writer living in a freezing garret.
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Hey, I like hot monkey sex as much as the next gal! LOL But I don't think it's the end all or be all to a relationship. And I don't think it's enough to sustain a lifetime. You have to actually LIKE a person to stay with them for the long haul.
And like and love are two very different things - and not always found with the same person.
BTW - I, for one, love your ramblings. You're charming.
LOL
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Very true. That and priorities. A reckless spender isn't going to do great with a plodding saver...no matter how much love there is.
And it really does come down to what kind of attitude is attractive -right? I mean, I know people who make less than 35k a year and are in better financial shape than people who make high six figures.
Is the guy who plods at a safe job but is a saver more attractive than the guy who makes a ton of money, but spends most of it without a thought to the future?
And of course there are the opposites - don't have a pot to piddle in, but money burns a hole in their pockets anyway...and the guys who earn the big salary and plan ahead.
But as for me - I like 'em when they earn it the old fashioned way. ;)
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I see the same attitude, but I tend to link it with certain careers, not income.
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Well, the original poll didn't say anything about how a man treats you. I mean yeah, if the choices were A. A man who is dirt poor but treats you well, or B. A man who is filthy rich but beats you every other Wednesday and twice on Fridays, of course I'd pick C. Stay single.
A lot of my thoughts on this come down to experiences I've had, and am currently having. I'm 41 - not a young, expectant girl anymore. I'm dealing with elder care and a child who may want to go to college. My mother used up all of her medicare days and is on private pay at the long-term-care facility - to the tune of $300+ a day. Thank GOD she and my dad were brilliant about money and had their priorities in order.
I watched one of my best friends lose an enormous amount of her inheritance because her husband was in a nursing home for 2 years before he died. She's still (relatively) young and has to live on the balance for what's left of her life.
The fact of the matter is, it's darned expensive to raise children and to get old.
I'm too pragmatic to think a poor, romantic love is better than a wealthy, comfortable like.
I'd love to see a breakdown of age on this.
I hesitated to say it had anything to do with age and experience because I have a friend who pulls that all the time...like age gives you the right to pooh-pooh someone else's opinion.
I don't think someone younger has no perspective - I just know that I see things very differently now than I did at 31.
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