Is this lying? Really?

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Is this lying? Really?
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Wed, 11-23-2011 - 10:54pm

I really shouldn't watch "Tough Love" because it messes with my head.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
Thu, 11-24-2011 - 11:50am

Sex is the least part of what my older gent and I share, which is a good thing because if it was based on sex, I would have not made it through the first 30 minutes.

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Registered: 09-25-2010
Thu, 11-24-2011 - 12:15pm
Wow...you lead quite a life! I'm not being judgemental, just giving you kudos for getting out there and trying different things on for size. No pun intended. :) you're braver than I, that's for certain!
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Thu, 11-24-2011 - 12:29pm

I believe experimentation leads to innovation.

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Thu, 11-24-2011 - 1:10pm

I am just thinking Long Distance Man could be the right guy for now? I mean you say you are very busy and dont need a full time relationship right? I think that is what you say??

When he is gone you can date others but just date and no hanky panky (lol) and then look around for a guy who suits you 100% but no hanky panky until both of you want the same thing...and need the same thing.

Life has a funny way of giving us what we need when we need it.. Maybe Mr. Long Distance is the one for now ..

Just some thoughts but what the hell do I know?? (lol)

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Thu, 11-24-2011 - 7:00pm

Well back to the original question, I don't think it's bad to date more than one person if you haven't promised to be exclusive.

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Registered: 11-23-2011
Fri, 11-25-2011 - 10:07am
I think it's a great idea to date multiple people but all that changes when sex enters. I've dated a lot but had very few sexual relationships. If it gets to that stage - not that often for me - I make a point of saying " if you are sleeping with me, that means you aren't with any one else." in my first sexual relationship after divorce , I made the mistake of assuming exclusivity and was heartbroken when I found that he was still seeing other women. I've found though that multi-dating (without sex) is not easy. Most singles of my age who I know date one person at a time. I have tried dating lite - i.e. going out with multiple guys but it doesn't seem to work. The men seem to assume I'm not seeing anyone else and it gets awkward.
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Registered: 02-26-2011
Fri, 11-25-2011 - 11:11am

Well, because of the geography, I think that having sex with just him is unrealistic. We talked three times on Thanksgiving

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Fri, 11-25-2011 - 11:49am
Marina90292 wrote:

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Fri, 11-25-2011 - 2:13pm

Hi Marina

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Fri, 11-25-2011 - 9:45pm

I had lunch today with my mentor, who is married, 78, and also reasonably wealthy.