Making an effort to go out and meet ppl
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Making an effort to go out and meet ppl
| Wed, 05-16-2007 - 8:20pm |
Hello!
Do any of you ever have this problem? Particularly for the singles out there. Do you often find yourself in the comfort zone and rather stay at home or do things alone rather than doing things that involve meeting new people?
I tried to make this as a new years resolution - to get out more often instead of staying home and watching tv or surfing the internet. But it's soo much harder than anticipated!!
What are your experiences?

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I'm a comfort zone-er. My friends have to drag me out. I don't mind hanging out at a back yard BBQ or if friends are all gathering at someones house for wine, I'll go for that, but I can't stand going to bars or clubs. I don't enjoy the whole meat market vibe. Plus, at 34, I kind of feel too old.
So, if you're a pill like me, LOL, I would suggest going to some places by yourself. There are all kinds of outdoor eateries downtown. I am always meeting people that way. Some allow pets, so I'll bring Zoe along or a book.
The only other suggestions I can think of are joining your local chamber or taking up a new hobby. My sister takes a painting class where she's met some folks, and a friend of mine joined a biking club a couple of years ago. She met all kinds of new people.
Recently a friend at work became single.
I'm totally with you there. Which actually kind of brings me to why I'm trying to go out and meet new people by doing other new things because I cannot keep up with my friends partying until 3 am anymore. I've tried cutting it short to 12ish or so but its just not the same. They usually don't start heading out until 11 pm at the earliest! I'm turning 26 this year but I just can't stay up until the wee hours anymore...!
"I'm a comfort zone-er. My friends have to drag me out. I don't mind hanging out at a back yard BBQ or if friends are all gathering at someones house for wine, I'll go for that, but I can't stand going to bars or clubs. I don't enjoy the whole meat market vibe. Plus, at 34, I kind of feel too old."
I could have written this myself only I'm 23... so I feel so abnormal. I'm the same way with the late nights, I really don't have any desire to stay out past 11 or 12 so I just feel weird going out if invited, I mean how do I just get up and leave at 11 when they are really just getting started. It's awkward so I usually just end up staying at home instead.
I go in phases. Lately, I have definitely been in the "homebody" mode. I bought my townhouse and adopted a puppy last year, so I've been enjoying house projects and playing with the dog. Going out has been a lower priority.
Yet, I also get lonely and would love to have more people around - friends and possibly a relationship if the right guy shows up. Both of those require getting out more, so I do force myself to go to happy hours, networking events, etc. to meet people and to just get out of the house.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
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