Making an effort to go out and meet ppl

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Registered: 08-14-2003
Making an effort to go out and meet ppl
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Wed, 05-16-2007 - 8:20pm

Hello!

Do any of you ever have this problem? Particularly for the singles out there. Do you often find yourself in the comfort zone and rather stay at home or do things alone rather than doing things that involve meeting new people?

I tried to make this as a new years resolution - to get out more often instead of staying home and watching tv or surfing the internet. But it's soo much harder than anticipated!!

What are your experiences?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-14-2003
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 11:22pm

Thats an awesome goal! I agree, the HARDEST part I'm finding is just getting off your ass and getting out there. Same goes for most ppl when they go to the gym! And its a little more difficult for some of us shy people =( Good to know theres many of us out there at feel this way! I do realize though that its important to make that effort if you do want to start dating or meet new people, unless you luck out!

Internet dating is pretty convenient too but I find its difficult in some ways because sometimes the way you perceive the person isnt the same as how they turn out after you've met them! So I've concluded to revert back to the old way of meeting new people =)

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Registered: 03-01-2005
Thu, 05-24-2007 - 12:45pm

Yea I totally agree. Internet dating is just not my cup of tea. I tried going to one meetup.com but it became really creepy, so now I've learned to be more selective of whom I meet (I am getting all these e-mails from people asking me to go out for drinks, and I'm so not interested).

You know what... I AM a shy person, but alcohol makes me VERY friendly, too much perhaps. The last time I went to a wine event with a friend who is also single and shy. After the event she was telling me how much fun she had and she actually said I was very outgoing. I was so surprised, yet flattered by her comment. So, my conclusion is, we ALL have an outgoing side to us... we just decide WHEN we want to show it. Alcohol helps me speed up the process, but I know I shouldn't drink too much ;) Don't want to end up in AA.

For now, I am so weary of the men in this city. I just want to meet a good girl friend I can do things with. I met a cool girl at a networking event, so hopefully that'll turn out good. Try to search online for some groups or events to go to! Go out! You'll meet someone you click with, eventually!!!

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