The Man Shortage

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The Man Shortage
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Tue, 08-29-2006 - 1:15pm

What are the reasons behind the “man shortage”? Why are you women constantly being ditzed by the guys you’re dating? I’ll tell you why..., men are tired of the games and BS. Good guys, like yours truly, and many men I know have simply dropped out of the dating and/or marriage scene..., so all that is left is players and users.

I read this article by Nancy Levant which when discussed was agreed to by most of the men in the office:

>>>>American women are perhaps the luckiest women in the world. We have, however, taken for granted the fact that we were given rights in a world where rights for women is still curtailed, limited, and at times, non-existent. Many women on the planet are not free in any sense of the word. Many women are still owned entities. So, the question begs - why are American women, whose culture and males allowed them to have freedom from gender bondage, so incredibly stupid with their freedom?

Let us consider a small list of shallow stupidities:

We are free to take vanity to bizarre standards and measures – those created by the beauty, health, and media industries – that mandate skeletal thinness, life-long photo-youth looks, tanning bed skin color, Botox shots in the face, fake breasts, fake fingernails, waxing, manicured eyebrows, plastic surgery of every make and measure, bleached teeth, and unending and life-long diets.

We are free to fall into the trap of the mandatory mental health industry – supporting big pharma and the New Freedom Initiative on Mental Health – by our addictions to anti-depressants to the tune of millions and millions of American women now zoning out on a daily basis with mood-altering drugs.

We are also free to become useless in our homes. We now hire maid services, landscapers, pool cleaners, painters, interior decorators, cooks, nannies, teachers and tutors, caterers, therapists, party planners, massage therapists, laundry services, etc., while losing every intuitive instinct of our female natures.

We are free to have extra-marital affairs, multiple lovers, to abort children, to disrespect and ignore the traditions of our families and religions, to use men like ATMs, to back-stab our friends and family members, and to take thousands upon thousands of family dollars for personal use in our missions to look like (and act like) teenagers.

We are free to have children with as many men as we choose, and to bankrupt multiple men with mandatory child support payments. We are then free to ignore children by paying far more attention to maid-cleaned, spotless, and magazine-cover homes, where no cooking is achieved, no family memories are created, and no shoes are allowed to be worn on the white carpets of the “new” American home. We are free to give our children computer software to keep them addictively occupied for YEARS, and then complain about their lack of social skills.

We are free to completely ignore the FACT that our children are SUFFERING with mean-spirited and incompetent mothers – children who are hungry, starved for attention, and mistreated by non-stop extracurricular sports regimens, drive-thru bags of dangerous food, teachers and public school indoctrination camps, completely ignored spiritual needs, and disrespect and contempt of their children’s fathers.

Sadly, this list has become the typical “home” scenario for America’s children and husbands. “Home” has become sterile because the women in American homes have lost their senses under the highly political guise of “liberation.” So, another question begs – what does liberation mean to American women? Does it mean the freedom to vote? Freedom from historical gender bondage? Freedom from ownership? I don’t think so. Today’s American female is free to be an idiot – a shallow, self-involved, pathologically vain, completely incompetent, and angry person – angry to the tune of making the anti-depressant industry the largest profit maker, bar none, for big pharma. Stupid is what stupid does.

American children do not have happy homes. They are television and computer addicts thanks, primarily, to mothers. So sorry, but facts are facts. American children have so many video games, movies, and “equipment,” that we now have to have “media rooms” to contain the sheer numbers of purchases made to very purposefully ignore our children. Then add to the mix that American women can’t and don’t cook. They don’t know how, and furthermore, between jobs, beauty and “health” regimens, and chronic diets, today’s mothers feel like crap most of the time, which translates into anger in the home. Just ask dad (or boyfriend).

My fear? I look at the history of women in other countries – nations without freedom – and our rapid march toward and beneath a new form of government – one in which freedoms are being incrementally dismantled and removed from the people. I observe state governors who are implementing reproductive legislation, as we speak, to curtail the rights of procreation, which, as we know, means the unalienable, primordial, and biological rights of women. I see men who are becoming more and more disenchanted with marriage – who fear what will happen should divorces ensue. I see the slutting up of American women in dress, demeanor, and attitude, and I see young American girls following suit. And I think of women in other nations, who have never had rights, and their treatment under nations and laws that label them as chattel, property, and for the most part, primarily vaginas and wombs. I worry about the mass, or shall we say “global” disenchantment of men with women. This history could (and has) set women back thousands and thousands of years.

Therefore, let us think candidly about freedom. Let us not continue to be foolish, cruel, stupid, lazy, shallow, and mean-spirited when it comes to the freedoms that America and her male gender allowed to transpire on our shores. We are very lucky women in this nation. To mishandle that freedom is dangerous specifically to women and children. And in today’s world, we are desperately needed to be intelligent handlers of our homes and children. We need to educate our children in the home. We need to eliminate family debt and to stock and store our home pantries and family supplies. We need to reconnect to our biological and intuitive natures, and with that said, we must reconnect to our spiritual natures and needs as women. We must be ultimately careful that we do not become what we loathe.

Anger has become a base point for many American women, and I suspect that anger stems from self-loathing, guilt, and boredom. If you’re running around shopping, spa-ing, working out, visiting therapists, tanning, bleaching, manicuring, you are not operating as a woman. And always remember, when one gender changes for the worst, so does the other. >>>>

Adrastos

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Registered: 07-28-2006
In reply to: adrastos
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 1:49pm
So what's your point?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: adrastos
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 2:11pm

I agree with some of what the article says to a point.

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Registered: 12-19-2005
In reply to: adrastos
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 3:51pm

My point is to stop complaining about there being no men have relationships with and to focus on changing your actions and lifestyles..., and when you become relationship material we WILL want to get involved.

Adrastos

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Registered: 07-28-2006
In reply to: adrastos
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 3:58pm

and when you become relationship material we WILL want to get involved.
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Wow! All I can say is WOW!!!!

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Registered: 12-27-2004
In reply to: adrastos
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 4:17pm
Me too.
Smh.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2005
In reply to: adrastos
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 4:21pm

Countrygirl,
>>>>I agree; however, men utilize these "bizarre standards and measures" as well.>>>>

Not to the point women do!!

>>>>I do agree that there are more people on antidepressants and other drugs these days and that it is definitely possible that they are sometimes overprescribed, but as a person who takes these drugs, I am an advocate of their proper use (meaning that the patient using them has gotten properly diagnosed and is evaluated on an ongoing basis).>>>>

I would be interested in seeing the percentages of men vs. women who are on these drugs. When I get a chance I'll research it...., we have a generator down right now that I must see to.

As far as using the other sex as an ATM....., no man I know does that!!

No one gets it: good men have stopped dating and even looking for women because of these character flaws of women, so the only men who are out there are players and users. That's who you're dating..., that's why your love lives are in shambles..., that's why you hear so many women saying they give up!!!

So how will you change this around?

Men don't necessarily want a stay at home mom..., we are looking for someone who is stable and acts like an adult. We have been taught that you are our equals but then we find out in dating that you still hold all the sexual power as well as ask for special treatment e.g. guy has to ask you out, guy has to make equal or more than you, guy pays for dates. This is called hypocrisy, where you say that we are equal but then demand differently when it comes to dating/love/relationships.

Adrastos


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Registered: 07-28-2006
In reply to: adrastos
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 4:33pm

Men don't necessarily want a stay at home mom..., we are looking for someone who is stable and acts like an adult. We have been taught that you are our equals but then we find out in dating that you still hold all the sexual power as well as ask for special treatment e.g. guy has to ask you out, guy has to make equal or more than you, guy pays for dates. This is called hypocrisy, where you say that we are equal but then demand differently when it comes to dating/love/relationships.

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You don't think women are looking for this as well? Women are going to college and getting degrees double the times as men. Women are owning their own homes and starting their own businesses and you're saying you can't find anyone who acts like an adult? LOL! Shame on you! You're making broad generalizations about women which isn't fair. I don't know what types of women you're running into but maybe you need to take a look at where you hang out? There are MANY good women out there. I'm sure if you hang in there and get rid of your negative opinions of women, one will just fall right into your lap. ;-) Just a hint: The good women don't hang out in bars and clubs by the way.

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Registered: 12-19-2005
In reply to: adrastos
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 4:49pm

Ok I looked it up..., on Medscape.com:

>>>Overwhelmingly depression has been seen as a woman's problem, and the rate of depression among women is usually estimated as twice that of men.>>>

This seems to be the current standard model although I have not found any population breakdowns so that I could post exact #'s. I would also venture to say that this rate of excess would be seen in some of the other issues this article speaks about.

Really..., I have heard all too many men say "I'm done" and they disappear from the dating scene..., then I hear women say "Where are all the good guys to date...., all I get are guys not willing to commit"...,

Men are fed up with women's attitudes and until you change your tune they will refuse to get involved..., and the ones that are out there dating WILL be using you like an ATM.

Adrastos

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Registered: 12-19-2005
In reply to: adrastos
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 4:54pm

I have not dated for over a year now..., and like most other people I was dating off the internet. That's where I met these women..., not in bars. Also, I met the same kind of gals from work so to me this isn't a generalization.

And as far as generalizations go..., we all do that..., it is understood that we are making statements from our life experiences and those of our friends. Never did I state I was the spokesman for man or woman...,

..., it's like an implied warranty ivil..., it's not written..., it's not spoken...., it's assumed you will take it in that context.

Adrastos.

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Registered: 11-21-2005
In reply to: adrastos
Tue, 08-29-2006 - 5:01pm

I know a LOT of men who have used women as their ATMs.

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