The Man Shortage
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| Tue, 08-29-2006 - 1:15pm |
What are the reasons behind the “man shortage”? Why are you women constantly being ditzed by the guys you’re dating? I’ll tell you why..., men are tired of the games and BS. Good guys, like yours truly, and many men I know have simply dropped out of the dating and/or marriage scene..., so all that is left is players and users.
I read this article by Nancy Levant which when discussed was agreed to by most of the men in the office:
>>>>American women are perhaps the luckiest women in the world. We have, however, taken for granted the fact that we were given rights in a world where rights for women is still curtailed, limited, and at times, non-existent. Many women on the planet are not free in any sense of the word. Many women are still owned entities. So, the question begs - why are American women, whose culture and males allowed them to have freedom from gender bondage, so incredibly stupid with their freedom?
Let us consider a small list of shallow stupidities:
We are free to take vanity to bizarre standards and measures – those created by the beauty, health, and media industries – that mandate skeletal thinness, life-long photo-youth looks, tanning bed skin color, Botox shots in the face, fake breasts, fake fingernails, waxing, manicured eyebrows, plastic surgery of every make and measure, bleached teeth, and unending and life-long diets.
We are free to fall into the trap of the mandatory mental health industry – supporting big pharma and the New Freedom Initiative on Mental Health – by our addictions to anti-depressants to the tune of millions and millions of American women now zoning out on a daily basis with mood-altering drugs.
We are also free to become useless in our homes. We now hire maid services, landscapers, pool cleaners, painters, interior decorators, cooks, nannies, teachers and tutors, caterers, therapists, party planners, massage therapists, laundry services, etc., while losing every intuitive instinct of our female natures.
We are free to have extra-marital affairs, multiple lovers, to abort children, to disrespect and ignore the traditions of our families and religions, to use men like ATMs, to back-stab our friends and family members, and to take thousands upon thousands of family dollars for personal use in our missions to look like (and act like) teenagers.
We are free to have children with as many men as we choose, and to bankrupt multiple men with mandatory child support payments. We are then free to ignore children by paying far more attention to maid-cleaned, spotless, and magazine-cover homes, where no cooking is achieved, no family memories are created, and no shoes are allowed to be worn on the white carpets of the “new” American home. We are free to give our children computer software to keep them addictively occupied for YEARS, and then complain about their lack of social skills.
We are free to completely ignore the FACT that our children are SUFFERING with mean-spirited and incompetent mothers – children who are hungry, starved for attention, and mistreated by non-stop extracurricular sports regimens, drive-thru bags of dangerous food, teachers and public school indoctrination camps, completely ignored spiritual needs, and disrespect and contempt of their children’s fathers.
Sadly, this list has become the typical “home” scenario for America’s children and husbands. “Home” has become sterile because the women in American homes have lost their senses under the highly political guise of “liberation.” So, another question begs – what does liberation mean to American women? Does it mean the freedom to vote? Freedom from historical gender bondage? Freedom from ownership? I don’t think so. Today’s American female is free to be an idiot – a shallow, self-involved, pathologically vain, completely incompetent, and angry person – angry to the tune of making the anti-depressant industry the largest profit maker, bar none, for big pharma. Stupid is what stupid does.
American children do not have happy homes. They are television and computer addicts thanks, primarily, to mothers. So sorry, but facts are facts. American children have so many video games, movies, and “equipment,” that we now have to have “media rooms” to contain the sheer numbers of purchases made to very purposefully ignore our children. Then add to the mix that American women can’t and don’t cook. They don’t know how, and furthermore, between jobs, beauty and “health” regimens, and chronic diets, today’s mothers feel like crap most of the time, which translates into anger in the home. Just ask dad (or boyfriend).
My fear? I look at the history of women in other countries – nations without freedom – and our rapid march toward and beneath a new form of government – one in which freedoms are being incrementally dismantled and removed from the people. I observe state governors who are implementing reproductive legislation, as we speak, to curtail the rights of procreation, which, as we know, means the unalienable, primordial, and biological rights of women. I see men who are becoming more and more disenchanted with marriage – who fear what will happen should divorces ensue. I see the slutting up of American women in dress, demeanor, and attitude, and I see young American girls following suit. And I think of women in other nations, who have never had rights, and their treatment under nations and laws that label them as chattel, property, and for the most part, primarily vaginas and wombs. I worry about the mass, or shall we say “global” disenchantment of men with women. This history could (and has) set women back thousands and thousands of years.
Therefore, let us think candidly about freedom. Let us not continue to be foolish, cruel, stupid, lazy, shallow, and mean-spirited when it comes to the freedoms that America and her male gender allowed to transpire on our shores. We are very lucky women in this nation. To mishandle that freedom is dangerous specifically to women and children. And in today’s world, we are desperately needed to be intelligent handlers of our homes and children. We need to educate our children in the home. We need to eliminate family debt and to stock and store our home pantries and family supplies. We need to reconnect to our biological and intuitive natures, and with that said, we must reconnect to our spiritual natures and needs as women. We must be ultimately careful that we do not become what we loathe.
Anger has become a base point for many American women, and I suspect that anger stems from self-loathing, guilt, and boredom. If you’re running around shopping, spa-ing, working out, visiting therapists, tanning, bleaching, manicuring, you are not operating as a woman. And always remember, when one gender changes for the worst, so does the other. >>>>
Adrastos

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I AM relationship material.
Oops, forgot to address this one:
"guy has to make equal or more than you"
There is one circumstance where I agree with this.
"Good guys, like yours truly, and many men I know have simply dropped out of the dating and/or marriage scene..."
I feel for ya, man! I dropped out too. Too much frustration in dating. And relationships? More trouble than they're worth. I'm a very honest woman (yes, we do exist) and I think I make an easy target for deceivers. I guess it's people like us who attract "those types", huh? But I have to wonder if you are as good as guy as you say you are...I HAVE to wonder because most of the men I've ever known to call themselves "nice guy" are so much the opposite (once upon a time, I dated one of them and after I told one of my friends who my EX-boyfriend was, she was like "You dated HIM!?!" Apparently, a lot of people hated his personality. I'm used to knowing men like that.)
"American women are perhaps the luckiest women in the world. We have, however, taken for granted the fact that we were given rights in a world where rights for women is still curtailed, limited, and at times, non-existent."
I agree with this. I value my freedom greatly and can't see why others don't see it. Then again, I am disabled and grew up differently. I see a lot of things that others miss.
"Many women on the planet are not free in any sense of the word. Many women are still owned entities."
I know more about the world. I know what happens to those women in other countries. I took sociology and world psychology. I think that many Americans are blind to what happens outside their own world.
"So, the question begs - why are American women, whose culture and males allowed them to have freedom from gender bondage, so incredibly stupid with their freedom?"
I do agree with this, but I realize that most women are a certain way that I'm not. Maybe it's the oxytocin? But I see/hear about women doing dumb stuff for the sake of what? Love? Despite my disorders that make me somewhat of a lesser human being, I see these women and think "morons".
Edited 8/29/2006 6:46 pm ET by filiasan
Ditto.
Adrastos,
I don't think there is a man shortage as such but I do think there is a shortage of attractive men that are worthy of us to date. There are a lot of single guys like you in Sydney and it's an active choice I make in choosing not to date men with your attitude and way of thinking. It makes me amused that you think that women are desperate to settle for any man who looks their way. Believe it or not, a lot of women who frequent this board are single because they cannot find anyone who is good enough not because they do not have anything to offer. In all seriousness, if you had really opted out of the dating scene, you would not spend so much time analysing the dating scene. You seem very bitter to me and you appear to hate women even though you have denied that on at least one occasion. We all get hurt by relationships but you can choose to let it affect your life or simply learn from your mistakes and move on.
Feisty
Feisty,
ITA with what you said! Adrastos seems to think that women are so desperate for any attention from ANY man and it's just not true. I don't even know this guy, Adrastos, but I'm sure I wouldn't want to date ANYONE with this mindset!! Because of attitudes like his, I'm sure this is why a lot of women are single.
From reading his posts, I also agree that he does seem to have issues with women. I happen to know there is a male shortage of ATTRACTIVE, DECENT, SINGLE MEN who have their act together. If the single women on the board say they give up in finding love, it's not because they can't find ANY MAN, they can't find a desirable man with a healthy attitude!
ITA with you feisty, I've read your posts and you seem to be well adjusted.
Ivil_mami25,
Awww shucks ... thank you for your feedback. I'm in my 30's and I'm sick of meeting men with this Adrastos' attitude who expect me to be grateful that they show me any sort of attention. And then when you reject them or you put them in their place, they turn on you and say no wonder you're in your 30's and single? Surely that is a rhetorical question? You're right, there is a shortage of men who have no baggage, issues or insecurities. I know that I don't have to settle for less and I don't have to justify my lifestyle to anyone let alone some random stranger I just met in a bar.
Feisty
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