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|Sun, 03-02-2014 - 1:12pm|
No I'm not talking about a swingers party, but 2 thing that happened last night made me think about this.
I was going to a dance and on the way there one friend was saying that last week she had a date with a guy she has known for a while. She said he's very nice, polite, nice house, etc. but she just doesn't feel a connection to him. She said she felt that she should bring him somewhere so he could meet her friends and maybe someone else would like him.
Then I went to the dance and was talking to another friend. She said that she had invited this guy who was a contractor who worked on her office because she found out he had just started taking ballroom lessons. Then she added, "I didn't want him to think it was a date, so I told him there would be a lot of women for him to dance with. I hope you'll dance with him, but he might not be that great because he's new at lessons." Well the guy was good looking, friendly, really nice and a good sport about trying dances he wasn't that familiar with. I couldn't understand why she was trying to make him see that it wasn't a date, except that she said that she's "happy being single" and doesn't really want a relationship.
Then a 3rd friend has a guy who likes her. She thinks he is nice but I can see they aren't really a good match. she's a very religious person who wants to get married again and would not have sex outside marriage. He's more of a rough around the edges guy, but a good hearted person, but I'm pretty sure he wouldn't go for the no sex idea. She would like to have him for a dance partner but she doesn't really want to date him--yet he took her out for a nice date and keeps calling her. I wonder if he thinks that he'll just wear her down. Most guys would give up with the lack of interest, I'd think.
So on the way home, I came up with the idea that we could have a man swap--you know, all of us could bring a nice guy who we just don't want to date and hope that he will like one of our friends. Unfortunately I don't think I could find someone to bring to this party--I wouldn't inflict my ex on anyone. And I don't know if the guys would go for this idea--I'm sure they would have to be told it was just a party.