Marital Pressure

I get that all the time! My mom is CONSTANTLY trying to set me up with these "nice boys" or "nice men". You know what I tell her? "Mom, I'm not looking for anyone right now", "Mom, from what you've said, it sound like they have **whatever flaw I'm not willing to accept**, thanks, but I'll just stay single", "Mom, I don't need a man in my life". Sometimes, I just laugh and say "yeah, sure, I'm getting married before I die". If you are constantly receiving pressure to be or do something that's not you, ask yourself, why are you letting that person pressure you in the first place?

You're not the only one in the world, I've been counting down the years since I was 15 until I can get my tubes tied and NEVER have kids. =P

I think you need a change of attitude. Why don't you focus on other similarities you have with people besides a family. Sometimes family members want reassurance that they are individuals. I think also that pressure to get married leads to worry which = bad relationships if one is worried all the time if this is the one that leads to marriage or is it just going to end? Having a boyfriend in my opinion is a major worry. I have spend a lot of time taking care of men who didn't have any idea if we would be together or not in the end. I could have spent that time focusing on myself and feeling confident in my abilities rather than pleasing someone in hopes of becoming their wife.

Boyfriends are really silly things for teenagers that like to feel special. When it comes to feeling real most men are not concerned with sincere moments. They are concerned with finding sex on an easy basis, but looking good and upright and like they are doing the right thing.

Marriage is really something for a person who is willing to give themselves to another person and that includes children. Children become your life.

Somehow boyfriends and marriage do not fall into the same catagory. Rushing to get married only mades a gf and bf relationship feel like they have commited themselves to something other than what they had before. I think a marriage comes from self sacrifice, and you cannot be the same woman who played girlfriend when you are a wife. The degree of responsibility changes, and to rush into this change creates a half way relationship, and not the full thing.

I plan to stay single. I have tried living together, being engaged, and the boyfriend thing...so I admit I never tied the not however I feel like I have experienced enough in physical terms with the opposite sex, I am willing to sit back and be more spiritual and maybe a bit more self absorbed with my life now.

I don't think there's anything wrong with your goal. If you'd like to meet a man and get married that's a great goal to work towards. You are obviously not letting it consume your life, but it's still something you want. And, as someone who has accomplished your other 2 goals, they're definitely worth the work. It's a great feeling to actually finish a master's degree and owning a house really gives you a feeling of independence. I have no doubt you'll accomplish all 3 of your goals.

I think what the previous poster really doesn't understand is that, as you pointed out, were not a bunch of kids here desperate for boyfriends. Many of us are in our 20s and 30s, have established careers, and are ready to settle down and there's nothing wrong with that.