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Married Men notice me
| Sat, 11-12-2005 - 1:46pm |
I don't know if anybody has gone through what I am going through right now. I consider myself a beautiful and successful young woman and I am looking for a great relationship that will hopefully lead to marriage. I have notice though that when I am in a crowd of men, the single men hardly will approach me but the married men have absolutely no problem approaching me and hitting on me. I have a couple of male friends that I was really into but they wouldn't give me the time of the day or they won't even take me seriously. Needless to say, they all went ahead and got married but just a couple of months after being married, suddenly, I've become visible to them. Not only have I become visible but they suddenly want a relationship with me. They are married!!!! I am very upset because I come from a country with great superstitions. I am not superstitious but I can't help thinking that I've been jinx or something. It's making me think that I will never get married and that, I will always be the girl married men notice instead of the single men. I am really freaked out because this has been going on for a while and initially, I used to think it was no problem but I've realize that it could be the reason why I am not getting a freaking date. Am I jinx or what's going on?? I really need some imput and I will post this on other message boards because I am really freaking out as to why suddenly only married men are attracted to me.

It's because you're "safe" to the married men, but not to the single ones.
I can relate.
Here's what my conclusion is:
single men still have their options open - so while I'm a good catch... they are holding out for great catch.
married men don't have anything to lose and are happy with "good" catch because in all honestly they don't have options - they just enjoy if we smile back at them.
Single men seem like creeps because they aren't just happy with a smile - they want it all. Married men are ready to eat up the attention because most aren't getting it at home.
The one thing I super stress to my married girlfriends... keep showing interest and attention to your husband because if you're not... someone else is going to and he's gonna eat it up!
P.S. these married men are the same ones that when single wouldn't have given us the time of day cause they were holding out for "great".
I DO think I'm great but not great in men-who-want-a-model, great!
It sounds like you want to know why this is happening but you also want to change it? Well, assuming I am, it looks like you've got plenty of answers as to "why". I'm sure there are tons of theories and a number of facts as to why this happens, but that doesn't really matter. As long as you're not interested in married men, you don't have to analyze their actions.
Assuming you're not interested in married men, I'd say try and change your social circle a little. If you're just spending time with a certain group of men then you're looking a very small picture of what kind of people are really out there. I'd get exposure to other groups of men, if only to give yourself some perspective.