Married Men!!

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Registered: 02-27-2002
Married Men!!
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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 9:12am

Hi,

I haven't posted in a long while so I wanted to say Happy New Year to all my fellow posters.

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Registered: 09-12-2005
In reply to: mhishon
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 6:06pm
freeatlast2008 wrote:

First off I am not judging anyone but I see it as if you think your poor son now looked up to

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Registered: 09-12-2005
In reply to: mhishon
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 6:15pm

I agree with you XXS.

I learnt recently that my mom was having an affair with my dad's friend and boss. 25 years later, they are still friends. He lives in NY and she recently visited him and his ''new'' wife, who also used to be his lover lol.

No offense, but in Cuba many men seem to cheat and many women know it. ''My'' married man wants me to go with him to Miami to visit some friends who know that I'm his lover. They come from the region where men commonly have 2 women at the same time, sometimes even 2 families, so they undestand it.

Actually, in Peru, where I used to live with my ex, it's not rare either. My ex's uncle has a lover for whom he even bought an appartment. He is a very nice, respectful man, good husband and caring father of 4. He's about 80 now, still lives with his wife. The whole family knew about the lover and he would go to some events with her. And to others, with the wife.

I'm not saying that it's not a big deal, but really, I don't understand why people are so shocked.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: mhishon
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 6:38pm
I seem to be a married man magnet. And given the judgement being given here, that's all I'm going to say.

(I'm still posting from hell with marina, by the way)
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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: mhishon
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 6:46pm

It is the myths that they were taught that causes them to be shocked.

dragowoman

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: mhishon
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 7:25pm

I always wonder in these cultures where it's widely known that married people have lovers if it's just ok for the married man to ahve a mistress or if the married women can do it too--what's ok for one should be ok for the other.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
In reply to: mhishon
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 7:58pm

Actually both sexes have lovers in many of these cultures.

dragowoman

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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: mhishon
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 8:07pm

Ha!

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Registered: 09-12-2005
In reply to: mhishon
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 8:24pm

I think it's because in these cultures people follow their emotions more than the reason. And we all know that even when we love someone, we can still develop feelings for another person. It's just that some people run away from temptations and others don't have the will to do so.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: mhishon
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 9:02pm
I've taken Excedrine Migraine the past two days for my headaches. Yesterday it wore off by noon which was awful. I'm going back to the doctor in the morning because my sinus infection never completely went away, and this morning I woke up and it was worse. I'm so tired of being sick...and kids hacking on me. Ya think the two are related??

Anyway...I started a thread a few weeks ago about how it seemed that all the good guys I meet are married and was judged for simply talking to an old classmate because he's married. As soon as I saw the thread title, I knew more judgement was coming! Like cfk said- we ALL make mistakes. I don't pretend I know someone else's situation because I don't. I don't think cheating or having an affair makes you a bad person. My mom and dad both cheated and they weren't bad people at the time at all. Just in bad situations.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
In reply to: mhishon
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 9:11pm

Well, the directions for the EM says to take two tabs.