Marry for love or passion?

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Registered: 07-03-2005
Marry for love or passion?
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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 1:43pm

So my dilemma of the day is:

would you marry someone that maybe you'd dated so long the initial passion was gone but the friendship/love for each other was still there?

or does the passion... in love feeling HAVE to be there?

I know you all are going to say... "well I'd like to have both" but I have a particular situation I'm dealing with so that's why I'm asking! :p

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Registered: 06-22-2005
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 2:53pm
I think marrying for love is more important than marrying for passion because as time passes the passion will wane.
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Registered: 09-08-2005
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 1:59am

Everybody changes. Our looks change as we get older (it is inevitable), our personalities and even perspectives can change, regardless if you did have passion/chemistry, or a strong attraction when you first met things change, some people dont even believe in marriage bc of that. but thats the sacrifice you have to be willing to make, are you willing to sacrifice for love? it can be a beautiful sacrifice if you find that wonderful person for you, if you feel right together. its a sacrifice bc their are limits, no more freedom in the since of being with whomever you find attractive, the single life ends, and thats basically the sacrifice. Eventually the butterflies fade the thrill fades and even for those couples that had very strong attractions for eachother in the beginning its still fades bc EVERYBODY CHANGES.

Staying in love is THE challenge.. its something you have to work at, you have to make an effort for eachother, keep eachother interested someway somehow, and respect eachother, always remember your love for that person. Though it is a challenge and can be hard work love can be something very beautiful if you allow it and KNOW the fact that things change after being together so long and that is the last person you are going to be with, to step into a true relationship that is the mentality you need to have. Its true though, still when we are 75 years old, sagging all over, and no teeth LOL!! LOVE overpowers, not passion. Love is a lifelong sacrifice. you gotta stay strong and always respect

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 7:49am

Well, my first answer was both, but if that's not an option, I have to say love.