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Registered: 05-12-2003
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Mon, 05-19-2003 - 1:46pm
Hi Everyone...I notice a real difference between match.com and other internet dating services. When I get a response from someone at match.com, it NEVER includes an email address that I can use to reach the person directly. But on other internet services, I often get the real web address of the person. Is there something going on here that I don't know about? I give lots of hints in my profile that I would like the real email address, but nothing happens. Any clues? I was thinking of posting here the handles of the match.com gals who have written to me not knowing that I can't respond. They probably think I have rejected them. Match.com is deceiving them by letting them think I can respond. They should really tell them which people are paying members and which are not. Have fun. Nerdyguy609@hotmail.com

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Avatar for schnappsers
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nerdyguy609
Fri, 05-23-2003 - 12:36pm
No, not yet. His roommate called the other day to make arrangements for us to all go out again tonight. If the one I liked last weekend doesn't show interest tonight, well, the roommate's pretty cute and is a lot of fun. I won't be devastated if the cop acts disinterested. I have other options.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: nerdyguy609
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 6:01pm
Hey, has your policeman guy called you yet??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: nerdyguy609
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 1:45pm
After the whole situation with the guy asking for more pics, I decided to give online dating a break. Fortunately, a friend has introduced me to some new guys (which is the way I'd prefer to meet men), so I still have some possibilities out there and don't feel like I need to go online.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
In reply to: nerdyguy609
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 11:58am
I think it might have some to do with my age, getting older and coming more into my own...(I'm 43) maybe you and others who are looking are much younger...when I was younger, I took so much more, so much more seriously...
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Registered: 05-21-2003
In reply to: nerdyguy609
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 10:45am
I envy you that you are away from all that. I'm the kind of person who has to beat something to death before I give up. So, here I am, on line, trying to make it work out. As my grandma used to say, "don't keep going to the butcher for butter". I'll get over it.

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Registered: 05-21-2003
In reply to: nerdyguy609
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 10:41am
Thanks for the link, it looks like there's some good stuff there.
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Registered: 04-14-2003
In reply to: nerdyguy609
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 10:35am
Gee! Thanks for the link---I didn't know there was a whole board on IVillage just for Online connecting! I hear that some people find good relationships online, but my experience and reading the experience of others who post about trying to find love online---it just seems that the majority of people go through a lot of angst in that process. Thanks for the link---I bookmarked it...
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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: nerdyguy609
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 10:25am
Is this what you mean?

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlcyber

I don't post on this board, and would hate for anyone to leave this one (imagine puppy dog face here), but the cyberconnections board seems to be what your talking about. Maybe you could pop over there (and then come back here, of course!).

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Registered: 04-14-2003
In reply to: nerdyguy609
Thu, 05-22-2003 - 10:04am
I too think the whole online dating thing would be an interesting message board on it's own. My two cents is that I just am glad I don't take it seriously anymore. Back in 1998, when having a computer in my home was a relatively new thing, I explored AOL photo personals as well as Match.com. Someone named Schnappsers (?) posted here about a couple of men that wanted more pictures of her, as well as men who would just disappear on her. That was my experience too. I would get hot and heavy e-mails from these men on AOL and Match.com and then either they didn't like the additional picture I sent when asked, or I must have said something wrong, but all of a sudden the e-mails would just stop cold. I remember having a divorced man say that I "disappeared" on him, after my talking to him on the phone one time and all he did was complain about his kids and his ex-wife. During that conversation he did say that he knew a lot of people who said, and I quote "It's easy to get laid on AOL." Scary, at least to me. He sounded bitter that he wasn't having the same luck that his friends were having. I am just happy that I stepped out of the whole thing some time ago. None of this is to mention the married men who were e-mailing me. I had put down in my personal "No kids, a nice full head of hair, single" men was what I wanted...and guess what I got, lots of bald guys with kids and married guys.
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Registered: 05-21-2003
In reply to: nerdyguy609
Wed, 05-21-2003 - 10:05pm
This whole e-dating thing could be a message board on its own. I'm new to it (2 months) and have found a really disturbing pattern...guys who don't (or won't) close a deal. They want to "chat" and e-mail ad nauseum. I REFUSE to suggest moving it to the phone etc. because I feel like if they're really interested, they'll ask to speak to me with a few e-mails. Be careful. You can end up spending boatlaods of time on these sites instead of being out MEETING people. I'm speaking from experience, I've done it.

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