Maybe someone knows why...

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Registered: 08-17-2006
Maybe someone knows why...
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Thu, 08-17-2006 - 3:47pm
A few months ago I bumped into a guy I hadn’t seen since high school (we’re both 28); apparently we hit it off and hung out a few times; then I didn’t hear from him. I bumped into him 2 weeks ago, turned out he lost his phone ( I noticed his new phone) and he wanted my number. I received a call (around 6am) a week later; turns out he’s intoxicated and confessing how much he thinks about me, why out of the blue we bumped into each other after all these years and he can’t get me out of his mind, how it’s my fault he thinks about me. He called me 3 times in a span of 20 minutes wanting to see me, wanting me to come over so we can sleep (no intercourse, just to “sleep”) and he wanted to wake up with me next to him (we’ve never had intercourse ). I told him I couldn’t because he’s drunk and to sleep; that we can talk later. Mind you, he’s a very nice guy…always had been since I can remember (I knew him since 8th grade) . I left him a message few days later asking if he wanted to hang out on that Friday; didn’t hear from him, so I sent a funny text on that Friday…It’s been a week and nothing. Can someone explain? I always thought the truth comes out when someone’s drunk…

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Registered: 01-03-2006
Sun, 08-20-2006 - 9:56pm
There's a difference between judgement and discernment. Given the facts, proceed with caution, no one in trying to judge but she does have be careful.
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Sun, 08-20-2006 - 11:33pm

Hal_9000,

I totally agree. I am continually surprised at what women are prepared to accept from men and it makes it harder for a woman like myself who likes to be treated with respect. Why accept crumbs from a man when you can get a four course meal from someone else?

Feisty

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Sun, 08-20-2006 - 11:38pm

Onelittleladybug,

I thought this wasn't called for: "Ok I agree that the drunk call wasnt a very romantic gesture but at least this guy is out there living his life making mistakes and not plowing away on the message boards judging others."

Who are you kidding exactly? It is quite obvious that the OP wanted something to happen between them. By the nature of your email anyway, it is quite obvious that you don't think that it was appropriate that he made a drunken phone call so why argue?

Feisty

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Registered: 08-17-2006
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 3:03pm

Hey everyone,

Thanks so much for replying and I appreciate the different views and opinions. I’m not looking for a serious relationship now, just wanted to know if the truth came out and if really felt that way if he was intoxicated…I never slept with him and we’re not dating …I never date a guy at first, I get to know him for a few months before I jump into anything. He is a nice guy but then again you don’t know anyone until you date them and you have to date them for a while before their true colors come out. Ahhhh, the wonderful world of dating!

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