This is me

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Registered: 07-16-2001
This is me
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Wed, 01-18-2012 - 10:55pm
Well, not really me, but it is how I feel. She writes about it really well. From the comments afterward, I can tell that most people really don't get it. Those of you here who are in the same position will get it. If you're not, chances are you won't and will think you understand, simply because you really want to.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mobileweb/2012/01/12/my-secret-grief-over-35-s_n_1202808.html

(sorry-it's just the mobile version bc I'm posting from my phone)

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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2009
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 1:47am
Interesting read and I certainly know plenty of women that share the author's feelings.
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Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 8:23am

I don't personally know anyone who feels the same way, which makes it difficult.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 8:25am

Very poignant.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 11:16am

I can certainly understand this even though I haven't experienced it.

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Registered: 01-24-2011
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 12:56pm

This is me too.

I feel the same way as the author did.

I only read the first few paragraphs. I find it too depressing to continue reading further.

Some nights I wake up in the middle of the night and this childless thing bothers me so much.

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 5:38pm
I know you want to understand, Music, but would you believe me if I told you I know what it's like to have children because I have friends who do? That's kind of the author's point. No one really knows unless they've walked in those shoes.
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Registered: 05-10-2005
In reply to: shywon
Thu, 01-19-2012 - 8:42pm

Interesting article, and I have been thinking about this issue a lot.

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Registered: 02-26-2011
In reply to: shywon
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 1:29am

I'm so sorry for your pain, Shy.

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Registered: 01-02-2012
In reply to: shywon
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 6:49am

Shywon, I am your age, I think (turning 35 this year), and I can totally relate and sympathise! Seeing my friends all having babies the last few years makes me feel like an outsider and that

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
In reply to: shywon
Fri, 01-20-2012 - 8:26am

That bothers me, too- that no one has ever "chosen" me.

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