Me Ego is Smashed

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Me Ego is Smashed
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Mon, 04-02-2012 - 8:50am

So lately my self esteem and ego have been crushed because as I am alone alone and have been going out on the scene for years and been on dating sites and have gotten some dates nothing has come about. We all know that I have said I have a better chance at getting shot by a terrorist

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Wed, 04-04-2012 - 12:44pm

Generally I like Facebook, but the "Hide" feature is my best friend. I freely admit I have hidden "friends" who have just gotten into relationships and make me want to vomit. Same goes for people who over-share all day--it's so tiresome.

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Wed, 04-04-2012 - 12:52pm
It's funny that you just posted this, because I started to address a reply to Free and ask if her sister is meek or insecure. I'm not sure if guys will go for that type thinking they can more easily bed them, because they want to take care of someone or because the guys are insecure too, so they figure they will be on the same level emotionally. I'm not generalizing. I know just as many guys who will single out the most confident women in the room.
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Wed, 04-04-2012 - 12:53pm

I know a woman on facebook who friended me aw hile ago (long story).. she sounds like she has the perfect life. she has a house in Pa . and it appears she doesnt work.. she has animals to keep her busy and a brand new car.. She also says she got into a relationship with a man who lives in

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Wed, 04-04-2012 - 1:02pm

I am not sure but what I do know about sis is that she shows herself to be very quiet, reserved, a bit unsure, a bit insecure and she does always play the part of victim if that makes sense. Yet that could be at the initial meeting of the men and then when she has them hooked her true self comes out.

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Wed, 04-04-2012 - 3:35pm

Well what kind of a BF could she really have if he lives so far away?

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Thu, 04-05-2012 - 5:55am

>>She also says she got into a relationship with a man who lives in Dubai.. She has visited him and they talk everyday on facebook saying how much they love each other and all these gooey ga ga things. It makes me jealous and sick at the same time. <<

Ahhh Free, I'd be treating this 'relationship' with cynicism.

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Thu, 04-05-2012 - 11:13am

oh; I agree with you about this woman and this guy but they are these believers of soul mates and think that one can find their soul mate around the world if need be.. They think on a different level than most people and believe that there is someone out there perfect for them but not necessarily in their country or area. Am I making sense??

So if they think this way then the guy will have to of course marry her and come to the States and I know that could be a mess but they believe they are in love and all will work out.

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Sat, 04-07-2012 - 10:46am

I went in yesterday and unsubcribed from some feeds, including my niece's friend's. She was just warming up for the weekend, beginning with making Passover cookies for her honey and hoping they turn out. My niece also says they are looking at rings. Uhhhh! Cutting off all of these feeds has really helped. Another one of my friends has turned ultra-religious, when she used to be anything but. I turned off her feeds, because they were just so over-the-top about the Bible and how she will never be good enough for Jesus' sacrifice, etc. I am not anti-religious, I just don't like it when people wear it on their sleeve. It is usually phony.

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Sat, 04-07-2012 - 10:48am

Well, I guess all of the good men are hiding somewhere, because I am not meeting them.

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Sat, 04-07-2012 - 10:57am

I know right??? I wonder how much exposure we would need to meet a decent man.. I mean first you have to find them or they have to find you .. Then you have to have chemistry and a whole bunch of other stuff .. It would seem almost impossible at this point.

Oh; I was talking to a woman who is supposedly some spiritual lightworker guru who has some over the top healing powers but that is a long story.. Anyway; She was asking me if I had met anyone yet. I said no and it is becoming impossible as I age. She said you can meet someone at any age.. I was like yeah I guess but I would like to meet them now before I get to decrepit..

I dont know but maybe there is a time table to all of this but I would like to have someone now.. Maybe our men are walking here from some unknown country or planet