meant to be single?

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Registered: 12-03-2006
meant to be single?
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Sat, 03-17-2012 - 1:21am

Well, I have not spoken to my ex-bf for over a month. I'm sad. Sad for him and sad for me. Sad for him because I love and care about him a great deal and wanted the best for him. He has never been good with money and recently his car died on him and he's struggling financially. Sad for me because I realize our major area of incompatability is too large to overcome.

Maybe I should give a little background to help elucidate the matter. I'm 45 never married, no children. I've been struggling with depression since my 20's. Along with that I put a great focus on finding my career so didn't have much left to practice the art of dating.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 3:35am

It seems there is a pattern of men you are attracted to or attract into your life.

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Registered: 10-16-2006
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 6:10am

I'm sorry things aren't working out with this man. But I think if what you want is a long term relationship or marriage, that you need to be with someone financially solvent. I had a boyfriend back in my 20s who was pathetic with money, in addition to a drug/alcohol problem, and I knew I could never marry him. I'm very responsible with money myself, and I don't want to take care of a man who won't take care of himself.

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 10:27am
My relationship broke up not too long ago so I know how you are feeling now.

You heard of this saying, "Every cloud has a silver lining". Maybe you and this guy is not meant to be.

Who knows, you might meet the man of your dreams after you have healed and moved on from this relationship.

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 10:30am

Sorry, off topic.

Mark, I have been wondering where is Sheri? I think you and her seem to know each other personally.

I used to follow her posts in the other board.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 10:50am

I know it's painful, but I think breaking up was the right thing.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 10:51am

I've wondered about Sheri, too.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 10:53am

I think this man is not for you even though he may have some good qualities.

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 11:56am
I've been wondering about the lady who had the pug in a bow tie picture. She had a son, and I believe she either owned or worked with horses? She was a hoot.
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 12:05pm

Don't give up, Satin. You've already achieved so much in your life and all the while, battling depression.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 6:52pm

I have not heard from Sheri in years.

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