Measuring up to expectations
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Measuring up to expectations
| Sat, 05-13-2006 - 5:23am |
Do women compare the guys they have dated? If so what do you use to compare you ex's?
If you meet a new guy do you think of them in terms of what he is like in comparison to who you have been with before?
If you meet a new guy do you think of them in terms of what he is like in comparison to who you have been with before?

Yes in some ways, no in others.
I compare the important things.
I don't compare guys I date per say, but my expectations of future dates do change.
If a guy I've dated treated me very well in a certain way, he will have set the standard in that area up to his level. This way, I am always improving myself and my dates are moving me closer and closer to my ultimate goal.. which is an equal partner.
I find that when I date lower than I have experienced before that I am disappointed and wistful for the one who set the standard... in other words, always move forward and not back.
Don't guys do the same thing?
Hope this helps.
I do have a natural tendency to compare...but it is NOT a good thing, and it's a bad habit I am trying to break.
I hope shes not. She does seem to like me though.
I am tempted to ask her though if she is comparing which is completely weird and rude I know so you dont need to tell me that but it is something that I am constantly thinking about so I have a huge desire to know if she is and what she truly thinks about her ex. I am not going to ask because that is just rude but it is just how I feel.
Okay, I just went through every post and I am just going to list out my thoughts, because I am having a hard time organizing them....
1. Can I see a picture of you guys? You cannot be as hedious-looking as you said....
2. I am both happy for you and jealous of you.
3. Go pursue her. Even if things do not work out, I am sure that you will become a better, more confident person because of this. Good luck!