Meeting Men....

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Meeting Men....
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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 4:27am
Everyone always says the worst place to meet men are in the bars. Whenever i pick up a magazine it says look for men in the grocery store, the bookstore,coffee shop,the gym ect. Well i've been to all those places many a time and i never meet men there. I've cruised up and down the aisles looking for the potential hottie to help me reach that item i can't get to. Never happens. Most the women in my life have met their significant others in bars and they're good guys! I'm curious.... have any of you ladies had luck in the oddest places to meet men? Butcher shop? Pet store? Or is that all a bunch of hooey?

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Registered: 08-02-2007
In reply to: citygal25
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:02am
Oddly enough, your best resource should be men's magazines. Get one, turn to the section on where to meet women, find out where you are expected to be -- and be there.
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Registered: 05-01-2007
In reply to: citygal25
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 10:46am
See, I don't want to go out for the specific purpose of man hunting. I go out to have fun with people I like, be they male or female. I'd cultivate my hobbies and see where they lead. But I've met a lot of nice and interesting guys at my favorite Starbucks.

~Heather~

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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: citygal25
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 11:12am

I did meet a guy at PetSmart. My dog broke the ice. :) We went out a few times.

I've also met men at the bookstore, coffee shop, the grocery store, and at a crosswalk - but never went out with any of them. They were just nice conversations.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-01-2005
In reply to: citygal25
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 11:22am

I'm with you on this one. For the past few months since I've been single, I don't think I've met any man in those places like grocery stores or bookstores. That's just rather odd. Maybe it has to do with living in a big city, but I feel like the chances of meeting men in those places are probably more likely in a small town where everyone is so friendly. In the city, bars are definitely the easiest places to chat someone up.

I've definitely met some good guys in bars. I haven't dated them, because I'm not attracted specifically to them, but they are good guys (have a good job, are not creepy, just your normal guys)...

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Registered: 10-30-2005
In reply to: citygal25
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 12:20pm

I think the difficulty with places like the grocery store, bookstore, etc., are that you are likely to see someone there just once, and briefly. With a bar, that doesn't matter so much, because the aim is often to meet someone.

But I would say that usually the best bet is a recurring activity with recurring people. You're more likely to get to know someone that way, and the getting-to-know and asking out don't have to happen in immediate succession. I can see how a favorite Starbucks could even be like that, because the more often you're there, the more familiar you become. You could run into people twice,recognize staff and you'd feel like you're in a place that's more like home.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
In reply to: citygal25
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 12:48pm

I've met a lot of guys (that I ended up dating) at coffee shops.

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Registered: 03-01-2005
In reply to: citygal25
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 1:57pm
That is so true.... you just have to get out and "be seen"
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Registered: 01-26-2006
In reply to: citygal25
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 5:33pm

>>But I've met a lot of nice and interesting guys at my favorite Starbucks.

Which one's that?? jk ;)

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Registered: 04-09-2007
In reply to: citygal25
Fri, 08-24-2007 - 8:58pm
Everyone keeps telling me that I'll meet a great guy at church. I go to a church with about 2500 members and there are probably 900 people in my service each Sunday. The pastor asked all the single guys to raise their hands a couple of weeks ago and two hands popped up and they were 12! The whole church laughed and all I wanted to do was cry!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: citygal25
Sat, 08-25-2007 - 7:08pm

i am in the seacoast of NH. growing area but not city. I always look in supermarkets and book stores for men, sometimes I have decaf or tea in Barnes and Noble. So, where are they? I like to read so a book store is a good place for me. I get tired of going places to look for guys. Then I take the spiritual route, if God wants it, he will show up.

I wrote to a lady in match around my age because she is from my town, having another single girl to do something with. She didn't answer me. I told her if we went for b'fast at a golf club etc it could be fun and if we didn't meet men, we still had a good meal. Golf club, good idea!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have done everything in my life from going into Macy's, telling a guy looking at a sweater he was the size of my brother blah blah to anything a book might suggest. I did it. I had parties and asked everyone I invited to bring a single guy.

I went into bars and introduced everyone to each other, like a party. ( no one believes I have a shy side) Oh well, I can't complain. Maybe God says, i had my share. I know God does not think that way, cause I know that energy personally
(:- ) But I do wonder if my allotment is over. I still keep the dream and the thought that the other side of the bed will hold a man, maybe i can get 10 good years out of him!!!!!!!!!! Meanwhile I have soft sheets and set the table for 2 to bring in the energy. leila

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