Meeting men effectively

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Meeting men effectively
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 9:37pm
I ran across this article. It is about a woman who learned how to meet men by having great coaches. Her story is that it is possible to learn how to relate to the opposite sex effectively. From her article: " Fascinated by the idea that romantic attraction was something I might be able to control, I picked up a copy of Robert Greene’s "The Art of Seduction" (still to this day my favorite book ever written) and began scientifically applying its techniques to a crush I had at the time, a man I was certain was out of my league. He was a 6’6,” 22-year-old, world-traveled fashion photographer with unruly dark curls, a Byronic gaze, and a supermodel girlfriend who would later go on to do a campaign for Agent Provocateur, my favorite lingerie label. At the time I didn’t consider the ethics surrounding his being in a relationship because, frankly, I didn’t really believe what I was doing was going to work. Instead what happened was that one night at a gallery exhibit where he was showing photos, his girlfriend walked in and threw her purse at him for talking to me. I left a short while later, not wanting to actually cause conflict. Later that night, at 1:00 a.m., I got a text from him: “I kicked my gf to the curb tonight. Sucks but it had to happen.”


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Registered: 12-03-2006
Wed, 12-19-2012 - 7:57pm

I have the worst luck when it comes to finding men. However, I've come to a realization after all these years (I'm a horrible retard at dating) that I am attracted to extremely smart if not brilliant men. Well, if they're are beefcake brilliant, all the better but beefcake brilliant don't go for me. I'm happy enough to be with just brilliant (oh, and not too short).  How do I attract them? Being a klutz, I don't attract many but once in a while I do come a cross a brilliant man who are interested. I'm not out to compete for high power men, only perhaps brilliant klutz'es who have trouble finding a sweet, loving, well-above-average, interesting woman like me.