Men

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Fri, 07-07-2006 - 1:36pm

I keep reading posts on here about men and the bad things they've done to each of you. Well surely there has been at least one man in your life that has been special to you and not screwed you over. Whether it is a friend, ex, father, etc.

So I'd like to hear about there guys....Who is a man you know in your life that is or was, special to you and your idea of a stand up kind of guy more men should be like.

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Registered: 05-19-2003
In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 1:53pm

That would most definitely be my father, who was my best friend in the whole world and never screwed me over.

We had a very tight relationship my entire life and I always felt very close and bonded with him. I was his world and he was very obvious about it. He was very affectionate, not a day would go by that he wouldn't pat my head, hug me or kiss me and tell me how cute or funny he thought I was. Very sensitive, he told me he loved me often and asked if I loved him back. My feelings were very important to him and he had to know how I was feeling all the time. When I hurt, he hurt and when I was happy, he was more than ecstactic. He was there for me on everything and shared in all my successes and milestones. As I got older, I felt even more comfortable talking to him about more adult things and he supported me, guided me and gave the best advice.

I feel as though we were soulmates. For I have never been so in tuned with someone in my life. Sadly, he passed in January of 2004 and left a great void in my life and in my heart but I go on knowing that I continue to make him proud and that his love and guidance will be with me til my last moments on earth.

He was the greatest love of my life!

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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 1:54pm

Well my first stand up guy is...my own father.

My second would be my paternal grandfather.

My third would be one of my uncles.

And my current standup guy is the guy I'm dating.

And other guy I can think of that is a really good stand-up kinda guy is the man one of my friends married. Very very good man.

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Registered: 08-13-2004
In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 1:57pm
Actually most of my ex-boyfriends have been really nice guys and good people. As you asked for an example--especially one of them, who was a really nice and sensitive guy, he was always eager to help everybody, he worked hard and always got things done, he loved to learn and experience new things, and he also loved to laugh--a lot. And he knew how to make wonderful pancakes.
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Registered: 04-13-2006
In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 2:01pm
It is nice to see there are some positive men in your lives somewhere and you have not started completely hating men lol. I just hear about so many bad guys on this board I just wanted to hear more about the positives in your lives.
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Registered: 04-02-2006
In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 2:02pm

I'll be honest.

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In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 2:07pm

<< It is nice to see there are some positive men in your lives somewhere and you have not started completely hating men lol. I just hear about so many bad guys on this board I just wanted to hear more about the positives in your lives.>>

I agree it was a good question! No I don't hate men AT ALL!




Edited 7/7/2006 2:14 pm ET by pimbiroo
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 2:15pm

Oh, I know dozens and dozens of these guys...some of them were my fraternity brothers in college (yes, I was in a co-ed but mostly male fraternity) and I'm still friends with them more than 25 years later. Most are married with kids and they are people I respect and admire (and I'm friends with their wives also).

Others are men I've met more recently and become friends with...in some cases we've always been platonic friends (met through work, in many cases); in some cases we dated some but things didn't work out for one reason or another (mainly to do with lack of attraction on my side or theirs, not character issues, obviously). Still others are men who are married to friends and family members of mine.

The fact that I *know* there are good guys out there keeps me optimistic about dating. Otherwise, I would have given up long ago. But I do tend to think that many if not most of the good guys in my age group are already in relationships.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-01-2005
In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 3:20pm

Although we broke up for a variety of reasons, my ex that I dated for five years was/is a wonderful person. It's very hard for me to think or say anything bad about him, although he did break my heart.

Others:

My brother-in-law: he started dating my sister when I was 11, so he's more like a brother to me. He is quick with the compliments, is a great dad, and treats my sister really well.

My dad: When my mom got cancer (and then,later, was diagnosed with MS) his soft, protective and caring side came out. He's one of my heroes.

Both grandfathers: They were both fun, sweet, caring and loyal men. I adored them.

Countless male friends, my friends' husbands, a few coworkers, the president of our company...

I know LOTS of really great guys - and I, too, love men. I complain about the ones who hurt me in the dating world, but I would *never* generalize than men are bad.

AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: antisexy
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 4:51pm

A lot of men I've known have had those good qualities, but to be honest, most of them have ended up doing something that wasn't so nice.