Men having difficult time also OLD

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Men having difficult time also OLD
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Wed, 01-25-2012 - 10:11am

Hello folks;

Well? I am starting to find out through some men friends who are OLD that besides us women they are having a hard time finding a woman to date or get into a relationship with? Sounds like its a two way street..

I know we women complain about it but the men have the same gripes.

So what could this be??

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 11:08am

I just think it's the age old problem of people liking someone who doesn't like them back, then the ones who want them they don't want--but it's all magnified x100 because of OLD.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 11:57am

oh; I so agree with you 100 percent...

I know this guy OLD and we have become somewhat friends. He is always saying that he writes to women and meets them but they dont like him?? After me finding out the kind of women he goes for I had a lightbulb moment.. He is almost 60 and looks for atlteast ten years younger. He also must have some long list of what he wants in a woman and i am assuming the list is unattainable for any woman.. His high expectations are probably working against him..

Yeah; the plot thickens.. (lol)

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-1999
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 12:59pm

Not sure I understand the question here.

I don't think OLD is different from other forms of courtship through the centuries.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 2:57pm

That would be entertaining!

Some feedback from my SO (who I met thru OLD) - he told me that he went on several dates before he met me, all through OLD and what he found was that a lot of the women used pictures of themselves that were very flattering, yet not realistic. After meeting them for coffee, they weren't anything like their phtos (he estimates the photos must have been around 10 yrs old).

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2006
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 4:29pm

I agree that men have to work harder at OLD than women. I think part of the issue is supply/demand: from what I understand there are far more men online than women.

But trust me, I was never flooded with emails from men when I was doing OLD. I'm not bad looking, but I am 57...in essence, invisible to many men, even ones my age.

And of course, the more attractive you are, the easier it is for you--man or woman. But that's true in all areas of life.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 4:37pm

I don't know where you get the idea that it would be easier for women.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 5:57pm

You are right that many women and men look for someone younger.

Goldfish

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-26-2011
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 1:43am

The problem with OLD, in summary, for both genders is this:

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 8:16am

That, and every time you log on, it's like going to a party/bar/event with only the opposite sex.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 01-26-2012 - 11:08am

The pic and a good profile help.

Goldfish

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