Met a girl at a bar

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Registered: 05-17-2007
Met a girl at a bar
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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 2:09pm
hey, havent posted here in a while, anyway I have a question. (just to refresh everyones memory, I'm 22 male just out of college)
Ok, so I never meet girls at bars, I'm just not the bar meeting type I guess. Anyway, so I was at a bar on sat and one of my friends pointed out that a cute girl was looking at me. A little later she ended up sitting down next to me and we started talking. Turns out she's originally from the same area as me, also just graduated, and works right near me! But... the issue is, I was pretty drunk. I really dont remember much else about her. We exchanged numbers, and I have her saved as "katie "bar name"" But I'm not even 100% her name is Katie...
I mean, I remember really enjoying the convo, and she said since most of her office is pretty old she normally eats alone... and we could easily meet up for lunch...
But, how do I handle this, should I tell her straight out... "hey its "my name" from "the bar name" from sat... She'll say hey. Then should I just start in and be like... sooo, I just want to be straight with you. I was pretty drunk on sat, and remember a only a few things about you. That you are really cute and seemed really cool, that we work close, and that you normally eat lunch alone. So I was wondering if you wanted some company for lunch tomorrow?
Would that come off oddly or does that seem fine??
Thanks for the help, I just never deal with meeting girls like this... I usually meet people at parties, or through other people. This was just a 30-45min encounter at a bar that ended early because it was close to last call (hence me being to drunk to remember much)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:04pm
HMMMMMM, as an addiction nurse, if a guy told me he was drunk and didn't remember my name or half of what we talked about, i'd figure he was alcoholic and say, good bye. You asked. I'd stop drinking so much so that this doesn't happen again. Leila
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Tue, 08-28-2007 - 10:46pm

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Registered: 01-26-2006
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 10:35am

>>Glad you called and did not text. I seriously think texting should be banned for all eternity. It should be a dating sin.

I seriously should have kept my mouth shut. :) Like I said, I do not condone texting!! :)

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Registered: 05-17-2007
Wed, 08-29-2007 - 12:38pm

haha no worries at all.

Hmmm, maybe she'll have one of those nameplate necklaces or something. That name spelling thing would be a decent option if her name wasnt something as easy as katie (whick I'm about 75% sure...)

Anyway, I'm just pretty excited that things worked out, and that she was very happy to hear from me. I'll keep everyone updated on what happens when we actually got out.

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Registered: 09-04-2007
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 11:16pm
I don't think you can never go wrong with honesty. I mean if she enjoyed your chat and you are direct with her then she shouldn't be too offended. It happens. People go to bars to drink and you got drunk. That isn't too shocking, is it ? Just explain to her something like this, "Hey I'm so and so and we met at the bar on Saturday. I'm calling because I really enjoyed our conversation that night but unfortunately that's basically all I remember. I hope you won't be too offended because you mentioned you're usually free during lunch and I'd like to have a chance to get to know you better." Just go for it. You don't want to risk pretending to know her name and then get caught...it's happened to me and it makes for a very bad impression. The fact that you were drunk and happened to start talking to her after you had already been drinking is just bad luck, it doesn't make you a bad guy heh.

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