Why does she advise against coffee dates? I HATE being stuck in the same building with someone I've just met off OLD if I know in the first 4 seconds he's a "Not a chance" on the chemistry score.
A friend told me this joke:
No matter how much a man makes plans, chooses a good restaurant, dresses nicely and acts the gentleman, on any dinner date there's only one party who knows for certain
I've done OLD before on a few different sites, but am not currently doing it.
I completely agree with you on the coffee dates.
I'm currently not doing OLD right now either and am, in fact, in an "I hate OLD" phase right now. However, I am just fine with a coffee date for a first meeting. To me, it is a meeting, and unfortunately, kind of like an interview...I don't consider it a date. If he asks me out after that, then yes, it's a date. I far preferred meeting for a glass of wine though--if you were hitting it off, you really could extend it into a date (although I rarely did). Meeting for the first time over dinner makes me feel sort of "obligated", plus there is the risk of being stuck with someone much longer who you really don't see any future with. I can tell you, the very last meeting I had through OLD was over coffee, and I can't tell you how glad I was to get away. I've done OLD enough to know that, even if I felt like I was really going to hit it off with a guy and would have welcomed a dinner with him, I found through experience that very often that charming wonderful guy turned out to be a total mismatch.
But everyone has to do OLD their own way. Not a thing in the world wrong with that.
I would think it was weird if I met a guy for coffee, and then he asked me out for coffee again. Yes, I would expect more of a date, otherwise I'd probably feel like he wanted to be buddies or something.
I happen to love to wear skirts. In fact, I actually find pants a little uncomfortable, believe it or not. However, I also don't like to over dress for a date, so I tend to wear pants or nice jeans. It just depends on where we are going.
p.s. I cannot STAND Patti Stanger (sp?). I hate "reality" shows anyway, but find her to be one of the most grating people on television.
Of all the OLD dates I have been on which were about
Its not being a snob if you don;t find them interesting.
I can;t see a coffee date either. I know my SO went on a few coffee dates before we started dating, but nothing worked out. And he did it for exactly that reason, he wanted to meet them without investing too much into it, he figured of they clicked or had chemistry or whatever, then he would have asked them out for dinner,
I'm surprised by all your reactions to the coffee date.
Now that I think about it, the big 3 first meets I had last year were all lunch dates--it just worked out that way that we were meeting on the weekend in the day time.