Mini Bridal Veils

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Mini Bridal Veils
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Tue, 03-11-2014 - 11:22pm
You may remember me posting about my coworker before. The one who is judgmental, shallow, and far too worried about appearances. She's done so many things that make people wonder what in the heck she's thinking. Anyway, I play bunko once a month with some coworkers. This month, she's hosting. Everyone else just prepares dinner and puts out candy. Her bunko is a huge ordeal. There must be a theme. Once she even convinced me to go to a strip club so she could ask some male strippers to serve drinks at her house so she could have a chippendales theme. I kid you not. This woman is rather conservative, yet plays "naughty" if she thinks it's what people will want. On Saturday, her daughter is getting married. She actually does not want her daughter to get married because she doesn't think he will make enough money, but that's another topic. The theme for this bunko is her daughters bridal shower. (I think her daughter said she didn't want a shower.) As part of that, she's making mini-veils for everyone to wear. My first reaction when I read that was "Oh, hell no!" I am not wearing a veil. It's just...weird. I asked another single friend of mine and she agreed. Now I'm also wondering if this is her way to collect more gifts for her daughter. I know her daughter, but we're not friends. I think I maybe last spoke to her last May. I am so not looking forward to this. I'm not wearing a veil. She'll just have to deal with it.
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Registered: 12-03-1999
Tue, 03-11-2014 - 11:37pm

You go to her house, eat her food, drink her drinks, and talk shit about her behind her back.  That is a hypocrite.  If she offends you that much, stay home.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 03-12-2014 - 8:19am

Well that was mean. You've just reminded me of why I rarely post about my life anymore. A simple vent is all this was. 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 03-12-2014 - 11:29am

I would just look at it like a laugh like it would be funny to get a pic of all your friends wearing veils, along with what I assume will probably be T shirts and jeans.  Or you could stick it on your head for 5 mins. and and then say it's bothering you and put it away.  Obviously she can't force people to wear them.  It's like the people who wear Santa hats at Christmas.  Or my friend runs a 5K on St. Pat's Day wearing a giant shamrock costume which obviously doesn't help with her time at all because it's like a wind block.  

I am confused though--did she actually bill this as a "shower?"  To me that would be very rude, expecting that people she normally has a game night with would need to bring her DD gifts.  But if it's just a 'wedding" theme, while I think it's kind of nutty, you could just play along and have fun with it.  

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Wed, 03-12-2014 - 7:47pm
She said the "Theme" is "R's Bridal Shower". I'm not sure what she intended by it. I'm almost positive her daughter will be there, although she's not part of the group. I found out today that her daughter has not included her on any of the planning- she hasn't even seen the guest list. For the control freak that she is, it's driving her nuts. I'm thinking this is her way to be included on the planning (I'm sure she is appalled that there was no shower). I'm going to have to ask around and see what other people who know her think her intentions are. You really have to know her to truly get a grasp of how backward she thinks sometimes. As for the veil, I'm going to ignore it and avoid as long as I can. My luck, she'd take a picture of us all and shove a bouquet in my hand. Then circulate that picture with the caption "She finally gets a veil and bouquet!" I promise, that's totally something she'd do and call it funny.
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Registered: 03-24-2003
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 12:25pm

Sabrtooth,

I've seen your responses to people all over different boards on ivillage, and they're basically all the same, regardless of what the subject of the board/post is. You are most of the time seriously impolite (and that's me saying this, I've been known to not be the world's most PC person on here), verging on insulting. You come out with ludicrous viewpoints and statements  dated around 1945. You lecture, berate and belittle posters and minimise their problems. You imply every single time that whatever a poster has done or is thinking of doing is the world's most stupid/evil thing to do.  'Prison warden meets religious zealot' is how  your posts come across to me. This is a short version.

You then praise yourself, your life, your parter, your children, their lives, partners and children and conclude with a touch of mockery and a suble hint that really, the entire world should live their lives like you and your family.

Broadly,  this is the plot, so to speak, of each of your posts. Last but not least, from what I've read so far, you're a 60+ y old woman who's been happily married for 40+ years so cannot possibly know the first thing about most of the topics on which you so confidently post...utter nonsense.

May I ask, is there a reason behind this?

PS; sorry for hijacking but had to be said!

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Registered: 07-11-2001
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 4:57pm
I have a feeling Sabrtooth has made up their entire life story. But back to Shywon. It seems to me that her daughter is aware of her mother's need to be in control and that is why she did not go ahead with a bridal shower organized by her mother. Her mother obviously still has the need to throw this event for her, even if it is for an occasion that is usually for a game night. If you usually enjoy the time with your friends, I would go, without a gift for the bride since it is just a theme night. I would not feel any obligation to put on the veil. I would just say to the mother "that's cute" and put it straight back down. She is obviously one of those people who loves theme stuff. I find it exhausting but each to their own. Beach
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Registered: 04-17-2008
Thu, 03-13-2014 - 9:26pm

I agree, Julia.  Let's just say that the screen name is rather aprapos. 

I guess we are all not nearly as superior as Sabrtooth and her gilded daughter(s).

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Fri, 03-14-2014 - 8:16am
Beach- That's exactly the word! Exhausting! She retires in one more year, and I'm so looking forward to being able to relax a little, do something my way (bc we're supposed to be a team, which means everything her way), and not feeling like it's a competition for who can put on the best show. Don't get me wrong- we're kind of close and I care what happens to her, but I just don't like her very much sometimes. I'm going to do my best not to be noticed that night!
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Registered: 10-16-2006
Fri, 03-14-2014 - 9:21am

@Gleannfia: LOL!