Mixed Feelings - Guy in my building asked me out........
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|Wed, 02-27-2013 - 7:26pm|
I hope this message finds everyone well........seems like we are having a punishing winter so far!!
Sooo........the building that I live in has a laundry room in the basement. I am up two more flights (no elevator - old building, fairly low rise), so I typically bring down my laundry, then hang out in the laundry room until it washes and then put it in the dryer, after which I will go upstairs (no one really messes with your clothes, but it seems easier to invest the 1/2 hour in waiting down there, just to make sure everything gets sorted after you wash it and you take out any air dry stuff, etc.).
Anyhow.....I am making a short story long here!! lol but I was in the laundry room later on Saturday afternoon - a guy came in with his young son (approximately 5-6 years old). Typically when you're in the laundry room people may make polite conversation, but he was drying some clothes and started chatting with me. After a while I realized that this was going beyond a "typical" chat in length.........he was pretty nice.......some kind of Eastern European background (fairly common in my area). He was telling me how he was a contractor, etc. and that basically once his ex got her "papers" she left him (marrying for citizenship also happens in Canada!). He wasn't badmouthing her.......just kind of complaining a bit. We kept chatting about general things (he asked me how I liked the building) and then.......hmm.......the subject really focused on me. He started asking if I was married, etc. and had I ever been married.......and what kind of work I do.....I didn't really know him but I guess he knew me because he was talking about one day a few weeks ago when I was having trouble getting my car out of the lot because of snow.......(I didn't see him, but from his apartment he could see out to the back).
So we were talking about the neighbourhood and I mentioned a pub that I go to occasionally (a bit of rough crowd.....not that into going alone at night). He said he knew the place too and had been there. Basically he ended the conversation by saying that maybe one night we could go there together - I said yeah, that would be nice, as I usually go alone (oops.......didn't mean to blurt that out but that's the reality). He said "Anytime you feel lonely (and want to go out) just come by - you know where my apartment is".
I talked to my mom and she was like - this guy is a NO GO.......I don't know what to think. I was flattered that he had obviously noticed me - today I was taking out my dog and I saw his roommate in the lobby, who was checking me out.......on the one hand, it's a small building and gossip kind of travels a bit.......on the other, it's a perfectly nice guy who asked me out.......I don't mind at all dating someone who has kids.........
I guess I meet all these shallow guys in bars who are just after an easy lay........I really don't look for guys in other venues (burnt out from OLD, etc.)........so in a way, what's the harm? I hate to admit it also.......I really want to have sex.....it has been sooo long (I'm not comfortable with the fwb or just one night stands...........)
I have some newer DVDs here and I was thinking of just dropping by to say "Just wanted to see if you wanted to borrow these"............but once it's in motion.......
So there are positives, but also negatives (the gossip, plus if it goes bad, we're in the same building.......)