More Dirty Laundry

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Registered: 03-27-2003
More Dirty Laundry
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Thu, 12-14-2006 - 9:33am

Last night I thought of another negative experience from my childhood. At about eight or nine years old, I was friend with a girl. We would walk to school together and hang out before class. Once she gave me a small gift, and my parents scolded me for accepting it, saying that it would cause "trouble". Then my mother had to go to class with me and return the gift to her. That was humiliating! If I remembered correctly, we never hung out again after the incident.

Now that I am keeping a journal, it feels like each day I am digging up more problems, but this time I really am angry at what my parents did. I know why they acted that way but, please, their burden is not my burden!

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Registered: 12-13-2006
In reply to: akt226
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 10:50am

Yikes...I thought journaling was supposed to make you feel BETTER!
Maybe you should try writing a journal on things that are you thankful for, more of a gratitude thing.

Or I guess maybe airing out that dirty laundry is necessary to move on to a better place, huh?

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Registered: 02-15-2005
In reply to: akt226
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 11:10am

Honestly, I don't see the big deal. Part of parenting is disciplining and correcting our children.

Jeez, when my DS was about 5 or 6, he stole some candy from a store. I made him take it back to the store, admit what he did, and apologize in front of everyone there. What an awful mom I must be!


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Registered: 10-10-2004
In reply to: akt226
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 11:47am

I know I am new here, but I felt compelled to reply. Life is too short to dwell on the past. You are an adult now and it is time to move on. Hanging on to what happened when you were 7-8 isn't going to get you anywhere. Hell my mother is 70 and she still holds on to things that happened when she was 7-8 and I can tell you it has not helped her one bit!!

I had horrid things happen to me as a child. But I choose to let it go verses relive it. All it does is hold you back. I have gone through a lot. Good bad and indifferent. It has made me who I am today.. and I'm not that bad off.

If there were things that your parents did that you didn't like then you know you don't have to repeat it when you have kids. Great thing about free will and choices.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: akt226
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 7:22pm

Just an FYI, he's been trying to work through some issues with women in general- having trouble approaching, shameful feelings about sexual thoughts, etc.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: akt226
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 7:26pm

Do you remember what was in the box?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: akt226
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 10:05pm
Thanks for your clarifications, but, no offense meant to Sisfox, I am not going to be vexed by others' opinions. Furthermore, I am determined to grow out of my problems .... The girl gave me a few boxes of mechanical pencil leads, which should not be a big deal. My parents overreacted, for reasons I will not go into, and like I said, their problem is not my problem!