More post-break up feelings, venting
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| Wed, 02-22-2006 - 10:32pm |
Hi again- well, i was asked to update and so i figured I would a bit here.
I just got off the phone with the girl that set me up with the guy i just broke up with. She said she was surprised he didn't call me yet and make a move to win me back. Gar! I told her I had secretly hoped he would- but was trying not to think that way because it wasn't helping me in the long run.
As much as I am happy to hear her say that- thinking that she knows something I don't- it is frusterating because it's been about 4 days now and I'm still having a hard time. I have this horrible fear of loneliness right now. It woke me up at 1 am last night and has been with me all day.
I wish I could shut off this grieving process and feel happy with who I am right now. Logically, I know i don't need a man to make me happy. But in my heart, I just miss having a relationship. Which makes me miss my previous ex, who i broke up with 6 months ago after a 4 year relationship.
I know I need time to heal and work through this. But wow, it's hard. I often wonder if other single women think about meeting mr.right as often as i do!

>>I know I need time to heal and work through this. But wow, it's hard. I often wonder if other single women think about meeting mr.right as often as i do!<<
We do, believe me. When you have been in a relationship that was mostly good, but it ended for one reason or another, it's hard not to want that feeling of connection again.
You do need to give yourself time to heal. Try not to hang on to false hope too tightly -- your friend could have been saying that she thinks he's an idiot for not trying to get you back, but that's not necessarily based on inside info.
It's only been four days. It is still raw and your feelings are totally normal. Give yourself time to be sad. After that, make sure you are filling your life with good friends and the things you love to do. It will get better one day at a time.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
Hello darlin! I completely agree with tallgirl, it gets easier one day at a time. One thing I always remind myself of is, I was fine before I met this guy - I didn't even know he existed. The next guy is out there somewhere just like this guy was. I am a few weeks ahead of you as far as a break-up (been three weeks) and it does get easier. There are good days and not-so-good days, but now more good than not.
Most importantly, you know the did the right thing and followed your instincts. The emotions will subside, you just have to hold on and ride it out. stay as busy as possible.
Try to switch your focus from "whether he'll call" to yourself, what you like about yourself, what you like about your life, what you want your life to be like and keep putting him out of your mind.
the guy I broke up with text-messaged me yesterday and said he is moving to L.A. in three weeks (I'm in North Carolina). I was happy and slightly disappointed at the same time, but mainly happy because it reinforces that I did the right thing. I feel like the universe is saving me from him by moving him far away. ha ha.
Recommended books : Dr. Phil's "Love Smart" and "The Bad Girl's Guide to Getting Personal" (very female empowering). Keep your head up girl! You are beautiful!