The most beautiful woman in the bar

Community Leader
Registered: 07-16-2001
The most beautiful woman in the bar
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Sat, 09-22-2012 - 2:39am
I got called that tonight! Ha!

I was sitting with my girlfriend, and this creepy guy was, well, giving me the creeps! I thought he left until I felt someone squeeze between us and set a glass down on the bar. Then he turned to me and said (the ultimate compliment), "Now that I've had a couple of these, I have the nerve to tell you that you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen in here."

What would your response have been?

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Registered: 05-10-2005
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 7:40am

Ugh, what makes someone think that behavior is attractive?

I am not necessarily proud of this, but I find that being firm, almost to the point of rude, gets rid of them faster.  So I would have said something like, "Thanks, but you just interrruped a serious conversation" and look away.  If he didn't walk away at that point, I would say "Please leave us alone."  I have no patience for things like that.

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Registered: 05-10-2012
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 9:38am

Oh my, sir...you do give a lady a case of the vapors.   :fans self:  Would probably work that Southern belle angle until he was embarrassed enough to walk away.  

Yes, I know.  Not nice.  But so much fun!!!

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 10:21am

I would just have said thank you & left it at that.  But by starting the sentence with "now that I've had a couple of beers" it was like saying "Hey, now that I'm drunk, you look good."  lol  That would make anyone so flattered.

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 11:18am
Music, that's exactly what I was thinking! He stared at me for a good half hour from five feet away. That was creeping me out enough. But then to get five inches away and tell me that now that he had had enough to drink wasn't all that flattering! My friend (who I've come to realize can't stand it when I get male attention and she doesn't) looked a little insulted, so he went to her and said something along the lines of "Not to say you aren't nice looking too, but you" and he came back over to me and repeated himself. He just kept saying "I really mean it."

All I could do was giggle uncomfortably and say thanks. He eventually went away, sent us both a drink (we were getting ready to leave, so it was not really welcome) and we left.

I just thought it would be interesting to see how each of us would react in that situation! Now, if he'd been my age and good looking...but that never happens, does it?
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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 3:35pm

I'd have just said thanks.  Luckily, it seems he left you alone after a while.  Had he persisted (and it was me) I may have had to get the manager involved.  Sometimes I don't mind bantering with them.  It's only when/if they get disrespectful that I become less amused. 

This reminded me of a funny story.  Myself and two friends were at a fairly small, local family restaurant a few years ago.  After dining hours were over, they'd open up the downstairs section for live music and dancing.  We had not made concrete plans this particular night and were just winging it (didn't feel like going downtown).  We were among the first people to take a seat downstairs.  As people were trickling in from upstairs, this drunk and very obvious, lesbian, starting hitting on my friend.  She was making almost no sense at all (she may have been more than drunk).  At one point, she leaned in to try and kiss her on the cheek!  My friend almost fell off of her stool trying to lean back far enough so that she couldn't make contact.  After that happened, she ran back up the stairs.  A few minutes later she walked back up to our table and slammed something down.  She just stood there smiling proudly waiting for us to notice.  It was a tiny little black tray that held the manager of the restaurants business cards (!?).  Then she turned, hooked her left foot over one stair rail and proceeded to do the same on the right.  She was almost completely doing the splits because the staircase was so wide.  At this point, I think the manager saw her and asked her to get down.  She sort of disappeared for a while until the music started and then reemerged on the dance floor which, was quite entertaining.  About an hour or so into the set, someone, who appeared to be her GF, came and retrieved her from the dance floor.  I'm guessing she took her home because we didn't see her again.  What a night, Ha-Ha!  

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 3:57pm
That would be the one my friends and I call "the one to watch". There's always one too drunk person that keeps everyone entertained. Usually a woman, but sometimes it's a guy hitting on everything that moves.

It does make me wonder...if it were a man who had tried to kiss your friend like that, would the manager have kicked him out right away, or would he have been allowed to stay like the woman was?
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 4:45pm

Reminds me of a night recently where I was out with a single parents group--mostly people in their 40's, and a group of women were up dancing and this woman who looked about 75 came up & started dancing with us.  She had the most inappropriate outfit on for her age--like a gold sequin mini dress.  She kind of looked idiotic trying to act like she was young.

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Community Leader
Registered: 01-25-2010
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 5:43pm

Hi Shy you did the right thing!  Being snarky or mean just makes you look bad.  We males look at how others are treated. One never knows who is looking.  Good manners impress will mannered men.  

 

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Registered: 05-14-1999
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 9:40pm

That's a good point.  I never even considered that . . . we were sort of tolerating her because, as you said, she was entertaining at least.  I have to admit, I've been kissed on the cheek by a few drunken bar flies in my day and I don't recall a manager ever stepping in . . . I guess it would sort of depend on the establishment.  I don't do swanky, ha-ha. 

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Registered: 07-16-2001
Sat, 09-22-2012 - 10:33pm
I've seen a guy kicked out for being too aggressive with women (I was one of them), but it was a place that pretends to be upscale (it's really just a newer, bigger place). We thought a guy was kicked out of the dive bar I was at last night, but he was just asked to go outside to smoke. I'd hope that if a guy were getting handsy with a woman and she didn't want him to, the bouncer would do something about it but I don't really know.

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