Move to Be with a Man??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Move to Be with a Man??
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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 7:40am
It seems my boyfriend of almost a year is moving to California. He got the offer of a better position from the same company he know works for (he like to think he has choice but he is a Brit on a work visa). He has asked me to join him there in about 6 months. NYC to California. He says he will do anything to make me happy and definitely do not want to break up over this. He claims we are now in negotiations (very romantic LOL). NYC to California. OK now and then I perform my "101 Reasons Why I Hate NYC" speech. But leave NYC? That thought is frightening. I have my condo and my job here (although I do admit to sending out a couple resumes to other firms in NYC so I am in the market for the possibility of a change of job). I know I am being all logical and somewhat emotionless about this thing but this prospect is scary as heck. I guess my question is: If that offer was made to you, what would it take for you to make such a move?
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Sat, 07-12-2003 - 11:16am
I've lived in NYC for 37 years. I love it and all my family is here. What would it take? if not marriage then a wedding date within 3 months or less of my moving there - especially since I would have to leave my family and take another bar exam - and california is really difficult!! I would move also if I wanted to move there independently and had a job opportunity I too could not pass up but then I would not live with him.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sun, 07-13-2003 - 8:59pm
Well, if he's on a work visa, does that mean he'll go back soon? If he will, then that's a whole other thing to think about. If he moves again soon, then will you uproot then too?

My other question- Do you have a little shiny rock on your hand? If you don't, you should still be making decision based on what is best for YOU, not what is best for the couple.

There is probably a voice in your head telling you what to do. Listen to it!