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| Fri, 03-21-2008 - 1:26am |
Ok - so I'm turning 30 in a couple of weeks, and I'm staring to panic. Not about guys or babies, happily, but I've felt "stuck" for awhile. My career is a stand still, and I'd have to defer work on my Master's due to $ squeeze, which has been a blow to my grand plan.
My mom asked if I'd considered moving to a new state. I even applied for a job in CO. Any thoughts? Anyone have luck in unsticking themselves?

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I am feeling very "stuck" right now myself. My job is dead end and I've been looking for another one for months. I am sort of seeing someone who isn't really in a great place to date. My friends rarely want to go out.
It's frustrating, and I also feel the need to do something to shake things loose a little. Moving isn't really an option for me right now - but something.
Let me know if you do move to Colorado. :)
AJ, enjoying life with C.
AJ, enjoying life with C.
I totally relate. I practically had a panic attack over this sort of thing the other day. I was sitting in a 20-something hipster sort of coffee house here in NY the other day and I realized, oh my god, I'm 32, not getting any younger, I'm still here working in a job I'm bored with, still single, how the heck did this happen (and I'm so not a city hipster anymore nor do I want to be)! I feel sometimes like my life has become a broken record stuck on the same note. I realized recently that I don't know what to do with myself after my current job. There's really nowhere else in my company I can move to either and as far as moving to similar companies in NY the cultures are pretty toxic and I've already been there, done that.
At least your mother has no problems suggesting that you make a change. I get no support from my family either in terms of making any change-- I come from parents who believe that "you choose one field after college and you stick with it and make it work until retirement because going back to school is expensive and YOU REALLY CAN'T AFFORD THAT, NOW CAN YOU!?"
I "unstuck" myself a few years ago, and that's actually how I got into this mess, FYI, so I guess all I'd say is just choose wisely and make sure you're not just jumping the gone because you're going through a bad spell. If I've learned anything, it's to have patience and really assess what you want and don't want from life before making any rash decisions. I've come to believe that we often have more power over our lives than we think.
I have not made any major geographical moves (I went to college in Boston, and stayed here) but I am in the middle of a major career move.
Well, at least I'm not alone in my stuckness! I have to agree that one my major reasons about not packing my car and getting out of Dodge is that there's always 'the wherever you go, there you are' scenario. I also would like to finish my degree and my program is at BU.
~Heather~
I say look for jobs in another state and see what happens. 4 years ago I felt "stuck" myself and moved from Texas to Florida. I knew not a soul, I had no friends, not a single family member in the state of Florida, it was a scary move but I did it. 4 years later I have alot of friends, a decent job, still in school, but almost finished, my family still lives far away but I've managed. Most people I know are too scared to move away but I feel like it made me stronger. And if things didnt work out in CO, you could move back home. Hey, you'll never know what will happen until you try.
Hey there! I actually just started reading this board and I found your post- you are in a similar state I am!
Well, sort of, haha. I'm still in college, but I'm stuck in a suburb of Milwaukee and I just absolutely hate it. I'm originally from Illinois, so it's not too far from me, but it's so not for me. I'm not happy and the place is dull. I was actually considering going out to Colorado also, because it is just so beautiful out there.
I have gotten lots of advice and support from friends and family over this decision. Most say that it's a really good idea and it will give you new, interesting experiences, which I'm all for. Don't make yourself miserable when you can
I did that exact thing about five years ago -- left my PR career track and went back to school for nutrition. I spent a year doing pre-reqs in science and completed one semester of graduate work. I finally had to leave school, though, because it was just getting too expensive and I had no life. On top of that, I was working a
AJ, enjoying life with C.
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